Cheeky_James
Master Don Juan
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it’s interesting that you can tell in 3 seconds when it’s a red light /no progression.I can only assume it's a mixture of her thinking I was good looking (even if none of her friends would ever describe me as such!) and maybe an element of natural 'chemistry' in terms of the way we connected and bantered. In redpill terms I guess you'd call it 'meeting her looks threshold and having enough 'game' not to mess it up'.
I pulled a very hot girl at a temp job a while ago. I posted her pic here although don't feel comfortable to blast her pic online again, although I think I showed you once. Even with her, after we first had sex and I done my usual 'de-brief' and asked her why she wanted me, she said she thought I was' super fit' (which means handsome here) and wanted me from when she first saw me. Now.... i'm not good looking, really. Confirmed by my rejection rate and my almost ZERO tinder matches!!! lol. But she thought I was
Honestly, with a cold approach, I can usually tell VERY fast. In the case of a girl who is clearly not interested and wouldn't be even if I had mystery and tyler and jeffy and todd and Ross Jefferries all feeding me the perfect lines to say through an earpiece! With them girls I'd say I can tell within like 3 seconds. Interestingly, it's the same with 'pros' in infeilds. I can tell extremely fast after their open whether this infield will go somewhere or whether it'll go in their 'rejection compilation'. When I think 'she's not interetsed', he can never ever turn it around even with his 'coach level game'
Not sure. Like, I think you can approach a girl who maybe thinks you are 'quite good looking' and she's not gonna reject you on your looks, but she'll want to 'feel' some sort of chemistry (that's not really needed with 'chad'. OR she 'feels' it instantly with him. It's just different and she interprates that raw attraction as 'chemistry'). So that could take longer in them instances. I'd guess 10 mins or so but i'd only be guessing. I guess that's why many dates (assuming the guy isn't a cat fish) don't work out
But with a woman you think it takes 10 mins her side.
And that yet with a Chad guy it’s instant chemistry for the woman.
I guess with the guy who’s just at her looks threshold .. there may be 5 such guys pursuing her.
And the ten mins is to assess if this guy has anything different to offer vs other 4 interested of similar value.
So he’s just a maybe until he can show any other value in the 10 mins.
maybe if he has more intelligence he gets in (which comes out in his humour and banter).
Or he is more assertive than the others.
Or money. Social status and social connections.
He knows the DJ, has party drugs, VIP tickets, etc
depends on the chick I suppose.
In bars and clubs I’d say it’s the latter 3 tbh
I think assertiveness is very key tbh. Having a ‘Boss’ or Alpha vibe from the start.
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