"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HER: You're gonna hate me but can we do another day? My mom just got home and said it's crazy. ME: My house is warm. It's your call HER: It sucks because I really want to. But even my best friend would have a tough time getting me out. If we can do Friday or Saturday, that'd be nice. If we have to wait, that's fine too. I just have some cool ideas and snow is ruining it. ME: I know you want to ;) and I just heard the roads are gonna be bad so I'd rather you not drive in them. Talk to you later HER: Okay ya boob. I think I sounded like her father in my last text. I think I sounded like the biggest AFC that a beta b1tch could possibly sound like. I just want whoever reads this to be brutally honest about how much she disrespected me and how much of a wuss I sounded like. I don't wanna pull this crap with the next girl...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Live and learn.
 
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Yeah obviously showing any concern about her wellbeing makes you a frustrated chump. You should get your priorities straight. An alpha male offers protection and security to those around him. This seems like a normal text convo and she seems still interest, giving alternatives and not blowing you off. Take care to not become paranoid and turn it into a self fulfilling prophecy.

Calling you a boob was just teasing you and her way of being cute. You're acting like she spit in your face
 
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Calling you a boob was just teasing you and her way of being cute. You're acting like she spit in your face
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Typical female shaming tactics. Only a woman like you would rationalize it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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whats the problem here
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be o.p. but it doesn't sound like someone with high I.L. ... you can just smell high I.L. when a woman texts.. I just don't get that here... all is not lost tho.. you could still get a bang out of this.. just don't be willing to get attached.. and back off alot. ... I think where you screwed up tho is by saying you want her safe at home... that needs to be her choice.. dad

And even if you get this girl.. who cares? You are self sufficient and not reliant on women for anything.. especially happiness. .. right? ... when you say yes... that is when you get her.

Good luck and go talk to some more girls.
 
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Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be o.p. but it doesn't sound like someone with high I.L. ... you can just smell high I.L. when a woman texts.. I just don't get that here... all is not lost tho.. you could still get a bang out of this.. just don't be willing to get attached.. and back off alot. ... I think where you screwed up tho is by saying you want her safe at home... that needs to be her choice.. dad

And even if you get this girl.. who cares? You are self sufficient and not reliant on women for anything.. especially happiness. .. right? ... when you say yes... that is when you get her.

Good luck and go talk to some more girls.
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. I know I sounded like her dad fvck. I'm corny old man to her as of now but do you think the frame is hopeless for a LTR in the distant future? Do you think she sees me as that much of a phaggot, given all I've said, that I could never be her boyfriend?
 
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Maybe I might as well just tell her that I didn't give a sh1t if she ever got home. I want more than a bang. I want to be alpha enough to be her man.
 
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Dude calm down it's going to be fine. The snow excuse seems legit, hell I've flaked on my boys this evening because of bad road conditions. Plus she offered a counteroffer. Just text her in a couple days to set up a date.

Chill on the alfa male stuff bro.

PS: on the text, it's not that bad come on. You're overthinking this massively and you're outcome dependant x100
 
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1 thing I learn .
Texting is wack ... you are very prone to making mistakes and saying gay stuff. But in the end it does not really matter ... time you spend with her is a lot more important.
I dont see nothing really bad with your answer and you overanalyze too much just be cool and dont be needy and you will be fine.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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. I know I sounded like her dad fvck. I'm corny old man to her as of now but do you think the frame is hopeless for a LTR in the distant future? Do you think she sees me as that much of a phaggot, given all I've said, that I could never be her boyfriend?
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Hey man.. don't be in such a rush to get into a ltr.. they can smell it

And take her off that damn pedestal .. she is up there taller than the empire state building..

All girls are un worthy of a LTR with you until proven otherwise... remember that.
 
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I didn't see any major problems in that exchange. Kinda dorky but not terrible. Personally, once she said something about rescheduling I would have said:

ME: All right, hit me up when your mom will let you leave the house.

And then I would have let her contact me whenever (or not).
 
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She thinks I'm a corny little b1tch phaggot and will never see me as a boyfriend. She should have driven through that storm. I'm a fvcking chump. How do I deal with this?
 
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Giantsfan88 said:
I don't wanna pull this crap with the next girl...
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Then stop texting them.
 
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