"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm doing online dating. There, I said it. I however have an excuse, which is that I'm doing it with a buddy because we made a "no alcohol for month" pact, and we really needed some **** to kill time. So don't hate.

Backstory: I messaged this HB7.5 face and she never got back to me, but I noticed her stalking me (this website allows you to see who views your profile, and when) multiple times. So I sent her the following message, and thereafter is our convo thus far. How'd I do? :D

=====I wrote=====
You can look, but please don't touch.

=====She wrote=====
You look like an ass and you're younger than me lol! You tell me why I should message you back :)

=====I wrote=====
You already did message me back. ;) And, if you play your cards right, maybe one day you can touch (probably not, but I'm rooting for you). Besides, you should be sucking up to me. All that stalking...you're lucky I didn't dead you.

=====She wrote=====
Haha you are an ass, I knew this by default because you're an aries...
Stalker....pshhhhhh youve been at the top of the stalker list every time I look! I think the dead to me button doesnt really work (ive had to use it before on one of those "gamer-anime-computer science virgin dorks")
What's your deal? You make that much money doing what???

=====I wrote=====
An ass, huh? I think us Aries are allegedly supposed to be stubborn...not asses. If we were supposed to be asses, me and every Aries would boycott all that sign reading crap. As far as work, I'm a writer, and yes, I make millions. Actually, I'm starting at a new paper this Wednesday so that's pretty damn exciting. Other than that, I like to sit home, play video games, watch anime, work on my website dedicated to video games and anime...oh and I'm also a virgin. So do you have a deal? Let me guess, you're an astrologist?

For those of you wondering...yes, I really am a writer, and I am starting at a new paper in two days.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stéphane

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Either work on your inner game, or don't talk about your inner game. Women don't want boys who sit at home play video games, you totally disqualified yourself there. NEVER tell a girl your a virgin!!

Your sepose to disqualify the girl first then make her qualify herself to you. Then after a bit you qualify her slightly.

Ask her what she does, then say something like "OMG your a nurse, I love nurses, but it usualy never works out with me, and nurses the're usualy to kind, and friendly."

Then She would probably be like nooooo I got a wild side too, trust me! Anyways just number close her soon, if you pm eachother back, and forth too much. She's going to lose interest.
 

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your first reply is wrong....

you did fine. Saying you were a virgin and like anime was obviously sarcasm (I hope). If she doesn't get that, you probably wouldn't want her anyway lol.

sounds very....David DeAngelo lol.
 

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Looks like a pre-written script in my opinion lol.
But yes, VERY David Deangelo.
 

War Against Betaism

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David DeAngelo was the first person I thought of when I read that convo. I don't recommend his style to anyone at all.

Online dating is pretty tricky because it's hard to decipher someone's confidence level over a bunch of words, but there is some ways women can tell your status. The word lol is basically the standard sentence ender or sentence beginner in an online conversation. People say it even when it's not funny. Only say lol when something is remotely funny. I see too many of these nowadays

"I just got back from work lol"
"I'm gonna take a shower lol"
"I'm bored lol"
"Let's hang out soon lol"

And when something is funny, never use haha to signify that you're laughing. Just use lol. One of my good friends does this, it kind of makes him seem a bit goofy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Personally, I loved the sarcastic part. The downside is, there are too few people that understand sarcasm. And if it really wasn't, hell you would scare the .. out of me :D:D:D
 
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awful!

u should not be messaging back with just ONE girl - thats the symp way of using the internet

you need to be spam messaging hundreds of girls and getting their screen names to talk on AIM or Yahoo or MSN, NOT sending messages back and forth

that isnt game
 

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Ultimate Player said:
awful!

u should not be messaging back with just ONE girl - thats the symp way of using the internet

you need to be spam messaging hundreds of girls and getting their screen names to talk on AIM or Yahoo or MSN, NOT sending messages back and forth

that isnt game
Believe me, I got like 6 or 7 going right now from that website. The problem is finding girls that are hot enough to message. I think the hottest girl on the site is like an 8.5...and I can only see the face. It's all for ****s and giggles any way. I could never get too serious with a girl I found online.
 
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AmazingTricks said:
Believe me, I got like 6 or 7 going right now from that website. The problem is finding girls that are hot enough to message. I think the hottest girl on the site is like an 8.5...and I can only see the face. It's all for ****s and giggles any way. I could never get too serious with a girl I found online.

use myspace

its free and 1/2 of the world is on it!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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OP,

Normal people don't talk like that. Quit using these techniques, they aren't working for you.
 
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