"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rata Blanca

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I'm tired of this, it's time to get out of my comfort zone, now in this diary I'll write my progress in:

Women, Approaches and Avoding Masturbation.
Weightlifting
Lucid Dreaming
Reading
Blindfold Chess

Anything else that improves my life really, LETS GO!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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good luck man. I'll check in for the women and approaching aspect. Dunno about the masturbation and chess playing unless they are together
 

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Thanks everyone should have update sooner, you guys think I should keep this strictrly about girls? Let me know.

Thursday 7,
Woke up and had dreams related to the Avatar movie and elementary school friends.
Went to the gym with a guy I consider pretty alpha.
I MB before going to sleep, so I'm counting from Friday my abstinence days. I noticed that everytime I see porn I MB so nore more porn for me...
Esperanza Gomez google that up:)

Friday 8,
Had a dream with girl she was taking out her clothes.
Went to the gym with the same Alpha guy, he is always pumped up while training saying things like: dont tremble ****er, only girls do! specially in front of a man! He really motivates me.
Studied one hour of Daniel' Kings powerplay #6 (chess)

Saturday 9
Had a strange dream, related to elementary school friends, chess, and two girls, same of the last dream and the alpha guy sister.
Had sex, it was awesome(with the girl I been having dreams.). Seems I'll have a steady fbuddy, We started kissing about a week ago. only drawback, we go to the same classroom(I was actually going out with her friend) The day after sex I felt awesome I don't want any more MB just sex.

Sunday 10
Couldn't remember any dream
Went to pick a girl from the bus station, we been having a LOT of convos on msn and skype, via webcam I really like her personality and her way of thinking(unlike the girl I'm having sex with), she's atheist like me, an avid reader, she read about 50 books in a year. She is staying a week in my town, we went downton, I bought a "one hitter" and she is been showing some curiosity about getting high, went back home, I showed her my books, lent her one and she will lent me another one, gave me a souvenir too. I had her at my bed, would have made out with her...only problem she is fat, shame.


Monday 11
Couldn-t remember my dreams. My ex called and woke me up, reminded me about school inscriptions.
Had a blinfold game via msn, I resigned in less than 20 moves.
Went grocery shopping, had about two girls take a good look at me, did't find them too attractive, should I have smiled anyway?
Went to the gym, picked up some info about a cooking school, played Call of Duty with my bro and old neightbors that visited us.
talked with atheist girl via msn.

Tuesday 12
Getting ready to pay this semester at the Chemistry Sciences School (Im studying Nutrition and Food Sciences.) I'd will enroll at the cooking school as well. (If my parents agree of course)
I'll update at night.
 

Rata Blanca

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I want steady fckbuddies.
Improve my conversation.
Improve my approaches.

Your advice about being a dog, sounds like something
I read at "How to win friends and influence people", it mentions how dogs make a living(get food) of being social, and happy with other people.
I'll take you advice in consideration.

Dreaming and blindfold chess are personal goals of mine, (just as improving my social skills) but as this is a forum to learn how to socialize I'll look for other forums for those goals. From now on only social events will be discussed here.
 

Rata Blanca

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Well, well I thought I had all the time in world...
I have only 1 steady fbuddy and I'm gonna get another once I'm suspicious the one I have is falling in love, she is already asking for a possible relation in the future.

Approaches? only been doing small talks, it's time to go for the "lets go a private place talk" or at least some numbers :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rata Blanca

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Got another candidate, but might be a bit of drama...
Secretary: so when are you taking for dinner?
Rata Blanca: in year
Secretary: (sigh)...ok

(slaps himself)
 
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