Randomly blocked, wtf?

[MoreThanSmooth]

Okay the latest depressing madness continues. I’ve been chatting to a few girls from an OLD site.

Got this cute but kinda nerdy girl talking with me the other day, got beyond the usual meaningless dating site chat and she gave me her number. Added on WhatsApp. We had tons in common - attended the same university, she lives locally, same hobbies etc.

Anyway she talked to me for about 4 hours non stop, gushing to me about her life and how cool I am compared to other guys on that site. She’s lolling all the time. Sends me a few selfies. Chat was awesome.

Asked her for a date on Friday, her response: “Yeah that would be great “

She signs off with “Good night xx”

Next day I go to chat with her, no reply, busy I guess. Today I find that she’s deleted my number and blocked me.

I’m not that bothered because I barely knew her, but it’s still yet another WTF moment that’s convincing me OLD is just bats*it crazy.

I could understand if I was a creep and/or ugly or something. But I’m not! This chick was even saying how refreshing it was that I wasn’t creeping on her.

Bah, I don’t even get it anymore.

 

[derby1]

The Real Reason your Peed here OP , is because youve wasted 4 hours of your life texting a girl, A High Value Male wouldnt allow this

People only treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you

you must get it in your head a huge amount of women have no intention of dating anyone, they are attention *****s who need constant validation

you have proved this by her ghosting you as As soon as you "called her out" so to speak, To her your like a token +1 now youve asked her!!!!

Women figure weird **** out aswell, like youve sat there texting her for 4 hours what a lil pet like the rest of my pets how cute

5 messages each way to get the number on OLD,

* Then a little comfort building through Text

6 texts max till your bringing up the date, Spread the 6 texts over 24 hours,

STOP BEING THERE 4 hour EMOTIONAL TAMPON, PEN PAL, THERAPIST, JESTER, EMOJI KING, PARAGRAPH TEXT WAFFLE

Always end the convo first after the few messages "going gym spk soon" not "GOOD NIGHT" "GOOD MORNING" it repulses them!!

 

[The Duke]

She wanted free attention and you gave it to her at no charge. You got nothing. There are plenty more like this so best hone your skills and keep yourself out of these situations.

 

[derby1]

Although it's possible, I really don't think it was the time you spent chatting that killed you

the point of not chatting to someone for hours is to protect your own self worth, its like a win win scenario for you

*she sees your different from the 99% who sit there sucking it in
* it shows your a man with a life outside of a phone

and last but not least it protects you from the 90% of OLD women who have no intention of meeting you.

These women are so strange theyll even message your phone number first!! wasting there own LIFE/TIME NOT JUST YOURS

its best to call them out 7 texts in than 4 hours of BS to find out she vanishes, after youve rubber her ego

 

[sosousage]

Okay the latest depressing madness continues. I’ve been chatting to a few girls from an OLD site.

Got this cute but kinda nerdy girl talking with me the other day, got beyond the usual meaningless dating site chat and she gave me her number. Added on WhatsApp. We had tons in common - attended the same university, she lives locally, same hobbies etc.

Anyway she talked to me for about 4 hours non stop, gushing to me about her life and how cool I am compared to other guys on that site. She’s lolling all the time. Sends me a few selfies. Chat was awesome.

Asked her for a date on Friday, her response: “Yeah that would be great “

She signs off with “Good night xx”

Next day I go to chat with her, no reply, busy I guess. Today I find that she’s deleted my number and blocked me.

I’m not that bothered because I barely knew her, but it’s still yet another WTF moment that’s convincing me OLD is just bats*it crazy.

I could understand if I was a creep and/or ugly or something. But I’m not! This chick was even saying how refreshing it was that I wasn’t creeping on her.

Bah, I don’t even get it anymore.

she was probably taken, like most chicks there. or she got messaged by someone more attractive than you.

 

[derby1]

Me, I sit at work making $50+/hr. texting 2-4 women simultaneously on some days when I have time.

we are talking of the general guy here who should not be sitting there for 4 hours on the night time in his own time...Only to be Ghosted as soon as he escalates for the Date ....She Has no intention of dating you @Amante Silvestre ,him or anyone, thats why they block, ghost as soon as you ask them out or they go silent....... so its best to get this out the way asap but not within 1 text you get my drift

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah 4hrs man, your high school days are over. The nice guy/always available to "chat" all the time doesn't work anymore. Reeks of desperation, and is the fast route to LJBF.
Even an actual 1st meet-up shouldn't go that long, even if it seems to be going well.

It sucks but you can't really take this shït personal. This 1 little event doesn't have to depress you. Believe it not this will happen to you again, it could be after knowing them a week or even a couple month's.

1 day YOU will even need to do this to a chick you are seeing, you just have to accept this is the way it is and move on.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Thanks for the input guys. I was exaggerating a bit with 4 hours (it felt like it I guess lol), but it was still like 2 hours. Still too long.

Yeah 4hrs man, your high school days are over. The nice guy/always available to "chat" all the time doesn't work anymore. Reeks of desperation, and is the fast route to LJBF.
Even an actual 1st meet-up shouldn't go that long, even if it seems to be going well.

It sucks but you can't really take this shït personal. This 1 little event doesn't have to depress you. Believe it not this will happen to you again, it could be after knowing them a week or even a couple month's.

1 day YOU will even need to do this to a chick you are seeing, you just have to accept this is the way it is and move on.

Thanks dude. Yeah, this one event doesn't bother me too much. Problem is this is like the fourth or fifth ghosting I've got in a row now. That does bother me, because dating is just starting to feel like a huge waste of my time.

My two best mates are always telling me to keep going on more dates, but that's getting annoying because I've been on far more dates than they have and their standards are pretty low. They went on 2 dates a-piece and got LTRs! They didn't date 8+ different chicks and get ghosted, f*ck up, get unlucky etc. etc.

So hearing them smugly tell me I need to date more is just...blaghhhh.

My online profile I'm using to get these faildates is kind of balls in terms of pictures, so I'm not getting many matches in the first place. Which means few opportunities to practice more on girls I actually want. Perhaps I would be better just focusing on my work and exercise for a few months, getting some new photos.

 

[derby1]

your not bold enough in your first date, your way over trusting there words still talk of a 2nd date and how your the best thing since the invention of the wheel mean nothing

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

your not bold enough in your first date, your way over trusting there words still talk of a 2nd date and how your the best thing since the invention of the wheel mean nothing

"You're the best thing since the invention of the wheel."
"Are you going to give me a ride then?" --> #nextdate

Lol ;P

 

[Murk]

If you need more matches jump on bumble and swipe while you're on your way to work, it only takes one hand, swipe to oblivion!

 

[Macaframalama]

This is the key here...

By the time a date is set up, all that's left to do is cross the physical barrier, which always happens early on.

My texts aren't aimless either. It's constant, smooth escalation.

Read between the lines folks. Keywords "barriers" and "escalation". I'm in the same situation as Amante, with time to kill at work oftentimes and this is exactly the way I play the SM game. If barriers aren't being broken and escalation isn't happening cycle on, IRL or OL.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

OLD is batty as hell, the contrast of me in real life and OLD is very different night and day

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Don't be so robotic and predictable, like the fellas said shorten up the text, be bold and care less. I get it though you want to know what you did so you can improve and reduce this situation

 

[skinnyguy]

Contrary to what most guys in here are saying, I don’t think it was your fault at all. This chick has a few screws loose. You’ll never believe you’re the prize if you let random sluts online make you think you make “mistakes”.

I’m not afraid of making mistakes anymore. I’ll go full on beta and tell a girl she’s beautiful. Who cares? For me, just taking the initiative to talk to women is better than nothing. The only mistake I can make is not talking to her in the first place.

 

[Roober]

One of the biggest lessons I learned here is...

"A man's gift is his time"

You gave a woman you care very little about what sounds like a total of 5 hours of your time? Think about that for a second...