LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
I love the idea of a personal ten. Individual attraction definitely matters.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
God there are so many ****ing tangents i don't know where to begin...does anyone even know what the MAIN argument is. I'm just going to respond to the things that caught my eye.
@Jaedon
1. Those are contradictions. You basically said 'don't think that much', then you said 'read lots of books', which implies a great deal of thinking. Thus, contradiction.
2. Your statement is the only one that doesn't make sense to me. How you formed your opinion that I am somehow naive, or something, I have no clue. Either way, it doesn't really matter.
This. I think what bryce is trying to say is that there's no way you can argue that Rosie is hotter than Kate...regardless of personal views. However, if you're dating Rosie, don't do it just because you're trying to go against standards or prove something to yourself or society about values/whatever etc.. Rather, date her because she truly makes u happy and is your 10 (which i don't see how she could be your perfect 10, but if she TRULY is then good for you).BPH said:Would you rather f*** Rosie O'Donnell or Kate Upton? And if you try to make an argument for Rosie's personality or some other BS it just shows that you're trying to destroy standards to make your personal choices more acceptable as you seek validation.
Dude i don't think anyone disagrees with you on this one. At least i dont...which makes me think this whole argument is a big misconception. On a personal tangent/side note, I don't want a 10 because I want to impress other people (ego), I want a 10 because of me. It's just like how you want a 10 in personality because that's what will make you happy. A true 10 is what will make me happy. In other words, I don't think I can marry a girl if she's not truly my perfect 10 (in looks and personality). **** other people...it's not about them. This is relateable to the fact that I want a lot of money. I don't want it for other people, I want it because it's what's important to me. That's why I'm working my ass off to get there. And that is my personal tangent/side note that explains that we/i don't disagree with your above statement.LearningSlowly said:I'm not arguing ugly girls are better than hot girls. I'm arguing that physical features are not the most important quality.
No ****. If you're not mature enough to realize that we all have different versions of a perfect 10 then idk where you've been...LearningSlowly said:I love the idea of a personal ten. Individual attraction definitely matters.
@Jaedon
1. Those are contradictions. You basically said 'don't think that much', then you said 'read lots of books', which implies a great deal of thinking. Thus, contradiction.
2. Your statement is the only one that doesn't make sense to me. How you formed your opinion that I am somehow naive, or something, I have no clue. Either way, it doesn't really matter.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Alex, then we also differ because I don't want to be rich. Rather than have outward expressions of wealth, I would rather have inward wealth, which is lasting happiness and living in joyful peace. This can happen while in the company of spiritual people even in the lowest poverty.
The ideas of a skinny girl with big boobs being the ideal for beauty are new ones. I can be attracted to other body types. As to whether I would enjoy the sex with your perfect ten more than my current girlfriend, I can't say, but to speculate would make me unhappy, so instead I will remain in the now.
The ideas of a skinny girl with big boobs being the ideal for beauty are new ones. I can be attracted to other body types. As to whether I would enjoy the sex with your perfect ten more than my current girlfriend, I can't say, but to speculate would make me unhappy, so instead I will remain in the now.
Jack Wealthy
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Reading implies learning not thinking. I explained the difference between the two. I don't believe you to be naive, but close minded. I doubt you have approached as many women as I have and you originally agreed tens were harder, a pure misconception. I'm trying to help you out by expanding your reality. Don't take it to your ego, don't over think this.
Are you saying you can't have inward wealth, lasting happiness, and joyful peace, while also being rich?LearningSlowly said:Alex, then we also differ because I don't want to be rich. Rather than have outward expressions of wealth, I would rather have inward wealth, which is lasting happiness and living in joyful peace.
@J right.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Just saying we have different goals.
I think we have the same goals. I just have the additional goal of wealth. Or maybe, wealth is a means to achieve the other goals (the ones you stated above).LearningSlowly said:Just saying we have different goals.