LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
I love the idea of a personal ten. Individual attraction definitely matters.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
God there are so many ****ing tangents i don't know where to begin...does anyone even know what the MAIN argument is. I'm just going to respond to the things that caught my eye.
@Jaedon
1. Those are contradictions. You basically said 'don't think that much', then you said 'read lots of books', which implies a great deal of thinking. Thus, contradiction.
2. Your statement is the only one that doesn't make sense to me. How you formed your opinion that I am somehow naive, or something, I have no clue. Either way, it doesn't really matter.
This. I think what bryce is trying to say is that there's no way you can argue that Rosie is hotter than Kate...regardless of personal views. However, if you're dating Rosie, don't do it just because you're trying to go against standards or prove something to yourself or society about values/whatever etc.. Rather, date her because she truly makes u happy and is your 10 (which i don't see how she could be your perfect 10, but if she TRULY is then good for you).BPH said:Would you rather f*** Rosie O'Donnell or Kate Upton? And if you try to make an argument for Rosie's personality or some other BS it just shows that you're trying to destroy standards to make your personal choices more acceptable as you seek validation.
Dude i don't think anyone disagrees with you on this one. At least i dont...which makes me think this whole argument is a big misconception. On a personal tangent/side note, I don't want a 10 because I want to impress other people (ego), I want a 10 because of me. It's just like how you want a 10 in personality because that's what will make you happy. A true 10 is what will make me happy. In other words, I don't think I can marry a girl if she's not truly my perfect 10 (in looks and personality). **** other people...it's not about them. This is relateable to the fact that I want a lot of money. I don't want it for other people, I want it because it's what's important to me. That's why I'm working my ass off to get there. And that is my personal tangent/side note that explains that we/i don't disagree with your above statement.LearningSlowly said:I'm not arguing ugly girls are better than hot girls. I'm arguing that physical features are not the most important quality.
No ****. If you're not mature enough to realize that we all have different versions of a perfect 10 then idk where you've been...LearningSlowly said:I love the idea of a personal ten. Individual attraction definitely matters.
@Jaedon
1. Those are contradictions. You basically said 'don't think that much', then you said 'read lots of books', which implies a great deal of thinking. Thus, contradiction.
2. Your statement is the only one that doesn't make sense to me. How you formed your opinion that I am somehow naive, or something, I have no clue. Either way, it doesn't really matter.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Alex, then we also differ because I don't want to be rich. Rather than have outward expressions of wealth, I would rather have inward wealth, which is lasting happiness and living in joyful peace. This can happen while in the company of spiritual people even in the lowest poverty.
The ideas of a skinny girl with big boobs being the ideal for beauty are new ones. I can be attracted to other body types. As to whether I would enjoy the sex with your perfect ten more than my current girlfriend, I can't say, but to speculate would make me unhappy, so instead I will remain in the now.
The ideas of a skinny girl with big boobs being the ideal for beauty are new ones. I can be attracted to other body types. As to whether I would enjoy the sex with your perfect ten more than my current girlfriend, I can't say, but to speculate would make me unhappy, so instead I will remain in the now.
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Reading implies learning not thinking. I explained the difference between the two. I don't believe you to be naive, but close minded. I doubt you have approached as many women as I have and you originally agreed tens were harder, a pure misconception. I'm trying to help you out by expanding your reality. Don't take it to your ego, don't over think this.
Are you saying you can't have inward wealth, lasting happiness, and joyful peace, while also being rich?LearningSlowly said:Alex, then we also differ because I don't want to be rich. Rather than have outward expressions of wealth, I would rather have inward wealth, which is lasting happiness and living in joyful peace.
@J right.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Just saying we have different goals.
I think we have the same goals. I just have the additional goal of wealth. Or maybe, wealth is a means to achieve the other goals (the ones you stated above).LearningSlowly said:Just saying we have different goals.