"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is where we will post random DJ truths and strategies we've encountered through our interactions to remind us when we get into new situations and to prevent us from making the same mistake twice, hopefully.


This is not where we argue someone else's experience but if you have a way that works for you, suggest it so they can try it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Random Facts:

Never initiate after a ONS.

If there's NC with a girl for a month, do not initiate. That ship already sailed.
If you do initiate, you have less than 10% possibility that she'd respond or that you will get it back to where it used to be.
100% of girls I initiated with one month, two, three months after our last convo, not sheet came of it.
Girls don't go backwards emotionally.

A girl that you give a gift before you fcuk is a girl you most likely would not get to fcuk.
Even restaurants let you eat first before you pay.
 

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Preselection is the best thing possible to create attraction.

Don't forget to make her invest, attraction alone won't get you far unless you are famous.

Don't forget to qualify if your perceived value is way above her perceived value.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Body Language:

If you go to a bar alone or with your male friends, find a sit at the center of the bar. Female attention would naturally come your way

If you go to a bar with a girl, on a date, do not sit at the center, sit at either end/sides of the bar. Prepares the mind for Kino.
 

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Your attention is your currency.

Always be willing to walk away for good.

NC means NC. It's not used to win a girl back. It's used to move the f@ck on with your life and leave her in the past.
I disagree, that's only half the truth. NC can get her back, but question is... do you still want her? NC can also be used to combat games they play and level the playing field. Or, obliterate it!

NC = challenge

If you're not willing to give an imperfect person a second chance, who is going to give you (an imperfect person) a second chance? Whatever happened to kindness and patience? Are we all walking dead people?
 

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When drinking, always hold your beer in your left hand.

Free up your right hand to shake hand with guys and move her across the crowd, hand on waist without your hand feeling cold or wet.

Don't be the dude wiping his hand on his shirt just to shake someone's hand.
Don't be the dude she rejects his kino because "your hand is too cold".
 

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You don't know where you stand with a woman until you force her to make a decision.

The "guessing game" is for faggots. Always make moves and take the lead.

When making plans with a woman don't accept "maybe" or anything wishy-washy as a response.

EXAMPLE:

HER: "I'm not sure about tomorrow. I'll have to let you know.
ME: "I need a firm answer or I'm making other plans"
 

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I disagree, that's only half the truth. NC can get her back, but question is... do you still want her? NC can also be used to combat games they play and level the playing field. Or, obliterate it!

NC = challenge

If you're not willing to give an imperfect person a second chance, who is going to give you (an imperfect person) a second chance? Whatever happened to kindness and patience? Are we all walking dead people?
Second chances occur (or should occur) long before a man goes NC.

NC happens when its clear that a particular woman/plate is NOT going to give you what you want on your terms. Men need to have standards. If you walk into a restaurant expecting a burger and they say: "Sorry no burgers today" you will leave and get your burger somewhere else. You will not make excuses for the restaurant and sit around hoping they will find a way to give you a burger.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I disagree, that's only half the truth. NC can get her back, but question is... do you still want her? NC can also be used to combat games they play and level the playing field. Or, obliterate it!

NC = challenge

If you're not willing to give an imperfect person a second chance, who is going to give you (an imperfect person) a second chance? Whatever happened to kindness and patience? Are we all walking dead people?
I agree with Poon on this one. NC is employed once second, third or even 4th chances have been utilized and wasted by her. True NC is forever. Game NC is just a pause or a delayed response to gin up her interest in you. I see those two concepts confused here a lot. If you are going ghost for a week or whatever to correct bad behavior or increase her interest, then that is not NC.
 

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-Attention…..there is such a thing as too much and not enough. A successful guy has to walk a fine line to provide that.
-Women fear rejection, so do weak men.
-Women live in the now and their emotions dictate that.
-Women tend to reason with a lot of emotion, men tend to reason with logic…….there lies the problem.
-A man should only love a woman who loves him first and a lot. The only kind of girl to have is one that thinks the world of you.
-Girls like to be kept on their toes.
-If you don’t meet your girls’ needs, she’ll find another guy that will.
-Girls are attracted to strength and challenge.
-Patience is important in dealing with emotional creatures.
 

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The best ability is availability.

At the end of the day:
You have to have a private place you can take her to (preferably your home)
Your dikc has to function. Her period shouldn't be on.
Neither of you should have any social commitment to another to make either of you feel guilty.

No matter the attention/concentration/game/attraction/humor a person puts in,
if either persons isn't available at the time that counts, it's all almost as good as useless.

If anything, you should be the guy she knows she can come to for seks without romanticized, beta behaviors.
Even if she acts like she doesn't like being savaged, you should be the guy she knows would fondle her every time she's in your presence.

Right place, right time is always the right recipe.
 

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A few facts:

1. Women need us more than we need them. Woman was made for man. Full fuking stop.

2. Testing and Games are an opportunity to show her that you are not a needy chump.

3. Demonstrate, do not explicate. Aka actions speak louder that words.

4. A good woman is almost impossible to find. Expect most of them to be wh0res with VD, and you will be safe.

5. Bad behavior should never be tolerated, even if she looks like a supermodel.

6. Bad behavior is best dealt with by removing your attention. No talking, no arguing!

7. There are ancient mysteries surrounding male/female relationships. Expect the unexpected. Most things are case by case, and not so straight forward. Roll with the punches!

8. True Love is a concern and willingness to help with anothers' burdens.

9. Scarcity... If you're not utilizing it, you will fail.

10. Have a fuking good time, and forget the rules. Strict adherence to rules and regulations only bog people down and make things, not fun! See: stick in the mud. The only rule should be, Love.

11. Making friends is easier that people think. Just be friendly, and remember names.

12. Demonstrate your value, without using words. No one likes someone who has something to prove.

13. Posture and body language on a man, are to women what a nice body and physical features on a woman, are to a man. Carry yourself with class.
 
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Several below that I currently try to keep at my forefront:

What you perceive as true has myriad alternate truths. Within this context, be fluid in thought, but concrete in execution after choosing the truth which best serves and empowers YOU.

Dare yourself to think outside the box and think extra-ordinary. To the masses, there is danger in social abrogation, and safety in conformity a/k/a keeping you in the box. Be willing to abrogate social thinking and principles.

Act boldly, think fluidly.

Who I thought I was, I became. Twice. Coincidence?

Attract flies often? YOU are the problem.

Big ego? You are now vulnerable.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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- What you have done for a girl in the past means nothing to her. It's all about now and the future.
- Girls don't like to do any work. They just want to look pretty and come along for the ride.
- They like to play the game, but secretly want to lose. :p
 

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i'd say, remember that there are multiple conflicting strategies of game out there, and more than one are viable.

don't forget that everyone's optimal game is different(unless the other person is an exact clone of you), so play to your strengths, impressing a girl with the things you do with your money (taking her skydiving on the first date) isn't going to work if you're not really rich, game that requires you to be exceedingly handsome doesn't work unless you are, etc. so find a strategy that plays to your strengths for best results
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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