"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rando hb text out of blue - response?

JonnyD123

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Here's the text:
Hey Jonnyd! I don't know if you remember me, but we met at ******* quite a while ago. I know this is totally out of the blue, but I wanted to apologize for never getting back to you. I left the country right after that and it just completely slipped my mind. I'm really sorry! Anyways, I hope you are doing well!

Response? If at all. We met 6+ months ago. Hit it off, got her digits then she went rogue. Completely forgot about her but I guess I still had her # saved in my phone bc her name came up. Solid looks and extremely intelligent from what I remember, which I find sexy. Any thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bigneil

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This is common. When you get a girl's number you are added to her list of potential mates, but you never enter at #1. You need to percolate up on the list. Regular girls will date between the top 2 and top 5 guys on the list. Hookers will date between the top 10 and top 20. All girls have a list. You never know your rank or their gamut, but if they ever initiate, know you are on their list.

6 months seems suspiciously long, so as GMMR alludes to, you don't want to seem like you were waiting for her the whole time.

But if you liked her then, it saves you the trouble of having to meet a new girl, so don't throw away an opportunity.

I find that this happens after 2 months very commonly. You want to collect a bunch of girls like this and you'll always have dates.

Tonight is my last night in Austin (only due to a mechanical failure or I would have already left). Four girls asked me out tonight (including Lexi under her real name). For the second time, I chose the same 21 year old stripper over her. Took her to a nice restaurant for seafood (our second date, the last one way back in May). You can pick up where you left off (and often increase things if you played her right) after several months. When girls return to you after a long hiatus, it only proves that even when hot girls are sufficiently attracted and there was no deal breaker, they are not always available. Apply this in reverse the next time a girl goes MIA. She'll be back.
 

JonnyD123

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bigneil said:
6 months seems suspiciously long, so as GMMR alludes to, you don't want to seem like you were waiting for her the whole time.

But if you liked her then, it saves you the trouble of having to meet a new girl, so don't throw away an opportunity.
Very solid advice. Now, how to approach such a message. I feel like a "who's this?" would demolish any sliver of rapport. Whereas blatantly coming out and saying "Hi **** I remember you," would also be devastating.

Looking for something in between those two extremes. Ideas?
 
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