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Ran into ex last night and Im still in a LTR and I dont get the exes actions.

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I dated this ex like 5 years ago. We broke up cause we were both stupid and immature we dated for a couple of months nothing crazy like living together but still. After her I met my current gf whom ive been with for 3 yrs on and off and we currently live together.
About 2 or 3 months ago I ran into this ex in the town she lives (about 45 min from where I live). First time in about 5 years we talked. She came up to me and was like blah blah blah blah blah take my number lets hang out tonight and I said I cant my gf is over there. She was very normal etc. We left it at that I was like well probably wont see her again. I went home and saw her myspace and requested her as a friend and she denied me lol.

So last night Im at a club i frequent (I live downtown). Out of the corner of my eye i see the ex walk in. I knew she was in town visting cause she didnt move. She came up immediately and introduced to me to like 5 chicks who were her friends roomates whatever. We started talking saying blah blah balh. She was like i was just thinking about you the other day. In my head i was like uuh okk. We seperated and we did our own thing for like 20 minutes. I walk by and grab her and her roomated and we get a shot. I dont remmber the convo. Then later on we grab another shot by now both of us are fvcked up. She starts saying some sh1t I apologize for being an ahole back in the day she says the same. Then I asked about her man she went on to say she broke up after a 5yr ltr. She knew I lived with my current gf. I cant remember much but i remember her saying "i know you think about me and love me so just say it. Take me on a date i know you want to." I cant remmberm my replies but I know it wasnt like yea i do lets go on a date. Then i remember going to kiss her and she was like whoaa. Then we kissed for a second. I said come over and she said you got a gf I cant. Then she started taking off my jacket etc. Then she kissed me again then walked off. I did not follow her.

The end of the night rolls around and Im like fvck her. My friend goes up to her and grabs her digits cause he wanted to hang out and fvck her friend. (i didnt have her number). She walks by and says shes leaving and she says call me later. She leaves then we leave. I say fvck it and grab her number from my firned and call her. I said you know its probably not the smartest for me to call you but my friend said you wanted me to. what r u going to do. She said going to sleep at my friends house. I dont remember the rest but it was short. I texted
Me: it was good seeing you and you can come ddown and hang tomorrow if you decide you wanna be cool otherwise c ya when i c ya.
Her: (immediately) me too you looked good and were cool as always call me tomorrow.
Me: you wanna hang call me..night.
Her: get a hold of me tomorrow for sure. \
Me: call me if you wanna come tomorrow.. night.

She is an AW and I know this cause my current gf is a huge AW. I was saying call me cause I know she was setting me up to call her so she could deny me to get her jollies.
Well I called her at night and what do you know no answer. I didnt leave a message. she didnt call back. I know she has some man shes messing with to fill her empty void. I know her enough that she cant stand being alone. When we were kissing she wasnt fully into it cause possibly of another guy..she doesnt care if i got a lady or not. Also she didnt answer and call back thats another sign she has some dude right now. Anyways Im going to call her in 5 days and ask her to come down and party. If not Im going to leave it alone. But I cant think of any other explanations of her actoins with me besides there being some other dude.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She was gettin' off on the attention you gave her. She wanted to see if she still had any kind of effect on you. She got off knowing you have a g/f and she can still flirt with you and have you. It's a control thing, like "I can still have him if I want" Should have just hi and bye'd her, been cordial at the most and let her be. I wouldn't have even acknowledged her. I wouldn't bother trying to get a hold of her, she's an ex for a reason plus you're already in a relationship so out of respect for her, you shouldn't be doing that stuff with your ex.
 

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What is your intention here? You are in a pretty serious situation with your gf, I mean you live with her. If you want something with this girl, which I think we both know cant be anything serious, since she doesn't seem like the type you can put a lot of faith in, you have to consider what will happen with your current roommate. Are you prepared to break things off with her for this ex?
I am sure you have your reasons, most of us have an ex we want back, but it seems like this its a bad idea with this specific girl. If you are bored with your gf, which seems like you are, you should reevaluate that, and maybe break things off, but not for this AW of an ex. I think you should avoid her and get another girl, unless its for some harmless physical fun (when you have broken off with your gf).
 

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Well the main reason is because my current GF if that wants to leave and break up when the lease is done. I think she messed around my back a little bit ago and I want to get revenge and I sort of did by kissing the other b1tch but a fvck saying fvck you would be nice also. I went up to the ex with the sole intention of fvcking her that night and thats it nothing else. My current gf says were broken up so nothing matters blah blah blah. Well Im sure if she came home to me with another girl things would matter quickly. Thats the main reason. The ex is a nut case also I would never get back into a LTR with her. Shes probably worse than my current gf. I want to use the ex against my GF because it will one give her pay back and two make her realize sh1t with me and change her sh1tty attitude. She couldnt say sh1t because I would say "oh remember you said nothing matters becuase we are not together?" Well ill make it matter
 

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You don't get her actions...who the fvck cares about her actions? Why entertain her "actions". Why even bother to do anything more than politely speak and then leave. And then tell your boys, thats my ex, I'm not really trying to hang out with her, so they know. And then go do something else in the bar/club. You let this happened by entertaining her bullsh1t. If you don't want to speak to someone, you don't have to. Why are you even giving her extra attention after the fact by posting it here, she should cease to exist after she is out of your line of sight.

Then all this petty ass drama with your current girlfriend? Dude. It's time to man up and kick these hoes to the curb. Stop waiting on sh1t to happen to you, make it happen to the world.

You want to play these hoes off each other? You are the one playing yourself by playing with women who are worthless. You know these b1tches ain't sh1t and still you persist in petty ego games. Destroy your ego and drop all of these hoes and move forward. Be a man, don't be a game playing woman about this sh1t. Grow up and move on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I dont know why but I am a vengeful person. When someone disrepects me for no legit reason I give them whats coming to them. My current "gf" is a very attractive girl and so is my ex. both hit on constantly. Can you really think of any very attractivce girls not pulling bs. I know a lot of good looking girls and I know someone arent as crazy as others but they still pull bs. Ive had in depth convos with some and they all say the same sh1t about doing manipulative stuff etc. It comes with the territory I guess. Yea I drop these hoes then what move onto a librarian? I like some excitment in my life i dont want some nut with constant drama nor a dull girl who does nothing. I just think its hard to find a good looking girl that you dont have to deal with sh1t. Im just trying to figure out a way to deal with them better.
 

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So you give me excuses for what you know is bad behavior. Who else does that? Women and children.

You give me "move on to what, a librarian?". Who said anything about lowering your standards, raise them even higher.

Your excitement in your life should come from your life, not from drama with manipulative women. You are addicted to drama. Ask yourself why.

You go back to your vomit now like a dog, you'll be back here posting again when you get sick of eating it. Good luck.
 

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I think you should try to fvck your ex, if the chances present itself. Give it a try and if it doesn't work out, oh well, you got nothing to lose. As for your current gf, she sounds like a B!tch. No use in trying to salvage that. Just move on when shes out of your life, and try not to think about the fact if she would regret it and all that. Thats a trap for your mind.
 

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yea my gf is a b1tch i could start a whole thread on the bs she has pulled. anyways im going to call or text the ex this weekened and see if shell come down. If not this weekened hopefully the next cause the gf will be gone. God I wanna have the ex in the bed and have her call up the gf. That would be such a good payback for all the sh1t the gf has pulled on me. If anyone wants to hear entertaining fvcked up stories about the current GF let me know and Ill start a thread.
 

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MattS said:
yea my gf is a b1tch i could start a whole thread on the bs she has pulled. anyways im going to call or text the ex this weekened and see if shell come down. If not this weekened hopefully the next cause the gf will be gone. God I wanna have the ex in the bed and have her call up the gf. That would be such a good payback for all the sh1t the gf has pulled on me. If anyone wants to hear entertaining fvcked up stories about the current GF let me know and Ill start a thread.
Well if she really is an AW and you said you'd call her... DON'T! It will really fvck with her and if you ever had a chance at getting back with her it's the best way to go about it. Wait for her to get desperate and contact you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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evoken said:
Well if she really is an AW and you said you'd call her... DON'T! It will really fvck with her and if you ever had a chance at getting back with her it's the best way to go about it. Wait for her to get desperate and contact you.
I think he just wants to Fvck her, not get back with her...
And yes, do start a thread about the fvcked up stories about your current gf. I like hearing about such things, it keeps me entertained.
 

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warrior is speaking the 100% truth, you need to listen.

in the end rght now the only one getting ****ed in your current situtation is the OP
 
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