"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ramblings of an adoptive spinster

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http://www.doublex.com/blog/yourcomeback/single-mom-choice-why-i-adopted-girl-china

My daughter is adopted. I had a long career path, partly because I left a career as a financial journalist to get a Ph.D. in British modernism, which turns out to be a difficult field to get a job in.

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... Being single and a mom is not that different from being married and a mom, I often think, except that if I were married, I would be richer and could get someone to help me with things like housework and yard care.

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[I have all the blessings of motherhood with none of the hassles of having a man in the house, so it's a choice I'd make again. I wish I could have another child, but I don't think I could support another kid, so I guess we're done. We do have three cats, so we're not totally solitary.
So lets see, a husband/father is reduced to being a wallet and handiman, but since he is a "hassle", it's not worth having him around. Oh well, I guess Darwin was right - the woman who did manage to find a man to impregnate her had a child, and you, who cannot manage to do so, is raising her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I didnt even read that besides the first paragraph. PHD in british modernism and she says its a "hard field to get a job in". Lulz no duh ya dumb b!tch!
 
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