"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Raising your own kid...

Bonez

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Starting today I'm a father. Serious, I found out from the hospital that I'm a dad of a two month old kid.

Awesome eh?

I need some advice on how to raise him!

Is there anything you guys can help me with?

If not, I'm just going to work, go to school, and leave the baby to be raised by the mother.

I've got tons of questions.

Like for the first few years, is there anything I should do so the kid doesn't turn out like I did? Should I ask my parents what the regret doing for me, or not doing for me when I was younger?

Should I let the mother raise him, and do my own thing since I can't "talk" to the kid?

I'm still calling my own son "the kid". I feel like a terrible father already
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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blackbelt2k

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im not a father, but i think because he is your blood, you should be in his life. DO NOT let a woman raise him. Do you really want him to have to find this site 20 years down the line, or you rather teach him from your experiences, so that he never needs this site. Someone i know, once told me, "a teachers job is have their student stand on their shoulders, so that the student can see not only want the teacher can, but more"...replace the world teacher with father.
 

Desdinova

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Do we really need another boy to be raised only by his mother and have him turn into yet another feminine man? HELL NO.

At least take part in raising the boy and be the male role-model that he desperately needs.
 

penkitten

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why can't you talk to your child?
i know he is a baby, but he can listen, and know you, and know your voice, and learn to trust you.
in a few months, if you are around, his first word might be dada.

don't be frightened, kids love you unconditionally.
 

KnockoutJM

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Teach him, and raise him as your own.. He is after all your "heir." Teach him to be a man, and try to be as big a part in his life as you can.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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