"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Raising your own kid...

Bonez

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Starting today I'm a father. Serious, I found out from the hospital that I'm a dad of a two month old kid.

Awesome eh?

I need some advice on how to raise him!

Is there anything you guys can help me with?

If not, I'm just going to work, go to school, and leave the baby to be raised by the mother.

I've got tons of questions.

Like for the first few years, is there anything I should do so the kid doesn't turn out like I did? Should I ask my parents what the regret doing for me, or not doing for me when I was younger?

Should I let the mother raise him, and do my own thing since I can't "talk" to the kid?

I'm still calling my own son "the kid". I feel like a terrible father already
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blackbelt2k

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im not a father, but i think because he is your blood, you should be in his life. DO NOT let a woman raise him. Do you really want him to have to find this site 20 years down the line, or you rather teach him from your experiences, so that he never needs this site. Someone i know, once told me, "a teachers job is have their student stand on their shoulders, so that the student can see not only want the teacher can, but more"...replace the world teacher with father.
 

Desdinova

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Do we really need another boy to be raised only by his mother and have him turn into yet another feminine man? HELL NO.

At least take part in raising the boy and be the male role-model that he desperately needs.
 

penkitten

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why can't you talk to your child?
i know he is a baby, but he can listen, and know you, and know your voice, and learn to trust you.
in a few months, if you are around, his first word might be dada.

don't be frightened, kids love you unconditionally.
 

KnockoutJM

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Teach him, and raise him as your own.. He is after all your "heir." Teach him to be a man, and try to be as big a part in his life as you can.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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