Raising IL

[anointed]

If you are in the situation were you have gotten physical (but not that much) with a girl who already has a bf who shes is only kinda with/on a break with/is unsure about, and more importantly says "shes wants to resolve it, whether it be split up or not"

what woudl be the best way to go about making this girl mine and raising her IL?

my friend also killed it for me today by telling her i like her.

I cleared it up with her and said dont listen to him. Theres something between us. The situation is basically that she doesnt know what she wants. SHe asked my firend if im a player etc, she held my hand in the car a while ago and i think it made things awkward. She said she feels weird hangin with me alone (since that time).. but she is also open to hanging out, its just difficult, but she does txt me EVERYDAY.

Ive been in this same situation a month ago, but the other chick was way more emotionally unstable i think, and i nailed her after her telling me "your not my type" and "i dont even know if i wana be with u right now, even if i split with him i might wana be aloen".. i still got her to want me over time.

This chick ahs said similar things. I asked the first one what the turning point was for her.. just outa curiousity of the whole friend-to-lover phenomenon and she said "it was when u looked me in the eyes and offered me something i wasnt getting"..

So basically i figured i was keepin it sexual and it was just the overall persistance.. anyone else have advice on raising IL on girls with unresolved/uncertain bfs and making them not say **** like "Welli duno what ill want evne if we break up".. i bust on thsi chick so much so that she wont feel weird to meet me but im not sure if its workin.. but we talk by other means ALL the time and she enjoys that. Whats the deal??

 

[DonDan]

Be a man, come out and straight up and tell her how u feel... ehhh.. Well... I dunno haha.. The girls i have been with all liked guys like that... It wasnt a test either.. I guess most hot girls get hit on by players they are tired of the games and want a real man... makes sense ...? I mean, I wouldnt go TOO long, without getting somethin done / action.. thats how it usually ends up being just a friends thing. gotta go quick for the kill show that btch ur a man and u dont wait around for bs stuff .... all or nothing
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Btw, Are you sure you like being in this position?? U might set urself up to get ur hopes down... i mean if the girl was actually that interested in u shed drop him in a sec and be with you.. but i mean.. u gotta stop foolin aroun and give her somethin to bite on so she can let go easier... cus i doubt she wants to let him go for you and she doesnt even know for sure u like her or not cus she knows she'll end up with nothing lol.. so yeh... if u let her get the idea she can have u wait and wait like this she wont see u as a real man and just a push over / needy guy who cant get nothin anywhere else..... so do somethni about it..

 

[Scorched]

Even if you got with her after she dropped her boyfriend... You would not trust her... Just get some play on the side man. Flirt with her. Use her as a reference, date her friends, etc... She might be the type that likes to have guys on the back burner. Most girls never want to be alone. 90% of the time with cases like this, the guy is always wasting his time!

 

[anointed]

weve been in contact everyday for like 3 weeks, via txt mostly. 99% of the time she initiates. I dunno if its cos she just needs that man attention everyday cos her bf is away. It was funny yesterday on IM she accidently wrote something in my window that was meant for someone else, along the lines of "Wow u like my picture.. ur sooo sweet".. i busted on her and she told me it was for her male cousin who says nice things to her, and she likes it cos it compensates for what her bf doesnt do.. I didnt fall into that trap.. and busted on her more.. But goes to show that she is looking to fill some voids that her bf isnt.

Anyway she just went away for NY until the 2nd of Jan

From your guys experience what do you think the effects will be of me just ignoring her for a week? (after being intouch everyday for 3)

Im gussing after a period of thinking about me and wondering why im not replying (which i can guarentee), shell either not care, or her IL will go up and shell ask "are u mad at me or something" etc... which shes done already actually.

Is ignoring out of the blue usually good for raising IL though?

And to add to this whats usually the effects of telling a girl like this im been dating someone else?