So I get a match with this 9 on POF. We have mutual friends but have never met. Straight away we engage in lengthy messages and I get her number. We then start txting long frequent messages. I know this was stupid of me and wont have done me any favours but I got carried away.
Turns out she works a very high pressure and busy job, 80 hours a week, on call at all times etc. She tells me 'its no wonder Im single' and how shes a workaholic. In short it does seem shes genuinely a ridiculously busy woman who doesnt really have much of a life outside of work. Anyway after a week of txting, I arrange a date to the bar for a few drinks. She agrees. Date night comes and she tells me shes going to be a hour late. I suspect shes going to flake so act nonchalant about it. She shows, we have a great night and stay out late. Date generally went very well, I was on top form with my game and she lapped it up. Plenty of eye contact from her, good body language, laughter and kino. Night ended with a small kiss. She txts me the next morning saying she had a good night.
We carry on txting over the next few days and I ask her to meet again the following week (today). I suggest a night to get some dinner, she tells me she will check her diary, free a night and get back to me. She also mentions shes got the week from hell workwise next week. I start to feel that maybe shes not really interested.
Anyway txting carries on, playful and flirty although notably shorter messages and less frequent. Shes taking longer to reply than usual. I take it all in my stride and try my best to play it cool. I starting realise Ive been communicating with her too much and not really being much of a challenge.
Two days before planned second date I start hanging back a bit. Taking longer to reply to her txts and generally being more nonchalant and a bit distant but still flirty (as she is).
Today was date night and I knew she was going to flake as she hadnt got back to me about 'checking her diary' etc. So I txt her the night before telling her to let me know if we are still on for our date. The next afternoon she txts me saying she cant make tonight and is going to be in work until really late. Shes flaked. I see no offer of a counter meetup and no suggestion of another night so I just txt her back a short message saying 'No problem I know your very busy'. I figure at this point her interest is very low and that I should stop responding to any further texts until she offers another chance to meet.
Anyway since then she txted me again saying shes having a really busy day. I dont respond (as planned) but give in after a few hours with a short nonchalant txt. She responds immediately with a long txt explaining why her day is so busy and how she tried to get cover so she can get out tonight, but still no suggestion of another night she can make it. Ive not replied.
So heres my dilemma. Generally in this situation I will conclude that her interest level has gone right down and shes only txting me for attention but I do have a feeling she is too some extent being genuine here. I know the old idea that if a girl is interested she will make time but I think maybe here there is a chance to pull this back.
On the one hand I dont really want to be txting her anymore if shes not going to suggest another chance to meet, on the other if there potential to hang back and maybe get something outta this I figure its worth a shot.
So what you think DJs?? Should I just ignore her completely or hang right back and continue with short nonchalant txts. At this point I feel maybe keeping very limited contact may work in my favour more than just completely ignoring her but Im open to suggestions.
Ive not responded to her long txt explaining why she cant make our date.
