Basically, I have a 2 year old brother who looks up to me a lot. I was wondering some things that I could do now to help him to be strong when he gets older and not turn AFC like a lot of young boys do. What kinds of things do you all suggest that I do and don't do to prevent future AFC behavior.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Raising a DJ
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Master Don Juan
I think the most important thing is to teach him not to look at women as some mysterious coveted and scary creatures. I think the biggest problems all AFCs have getting over is seeing women as regular people instead of goddesses that need to be put on a pedestal.
This makes me think of a quote, I forgot who said it:
"Flatter me and I won't believe you. Criticize me and I may hate you. Ignore me and I may never forgive you. Encourage me and I will never forget you."
Basically encourage the little guy. Always make him feel like #1. Always pound it into his head that he can accomplish anything he tries real hard at.
I think our society's parents need to focus on their children's confidence a lot more than they do. A four year old might try to learn to play Tee ball but get frustrated and cry if he misses the ball over and over. Usually the parents just go "oooh it's ok junior, let me get you some junk food to cheer you up" instead of getting through to him that you have to work for the things you want and you can't just give up immediately, that he can reach any goals he sets, and that all experts were once begginers, etc.
Obviously he might be too young to understand at that point, but it will grow on him if people he looks up to keep telling him. Ofcourse later on in life this will affect his confidence and his social, sexual and professional life.
"Flatter me and I won't believe you. Criticize me and I may hate you. Ignore me and I may never forgive you. Encourage me and I will never forget you."
Basically encourage the little guy. Always make him feel like #1. Always pound it into his head that he can accomplish anything he tries real hard at.
I think our society's parents need to focus on their children's confidence a lot more than they do. A four year old might try to learn to play Tee ball but get frustrated and cry if he misses the ball over and over. Usually the parents just go "oooh it's ok junior, let me get you some junk food to cheer you up" instead of getting through to him that you have to work for the things you want and you can't just give up immediately, that he can reach any goals he sets, and that all experts were once begginers, etc.
Obviously he might be too young to understand at that point, but it will grow on him if people he looks up to keep telling him. Ofcourse later on in life this will affect his confidence and his social, sexual and professional life.
bbestar
Banned
you basically need to get him to understand that HE KNOWS NOTHING...
NOTHING.. what is best for him, what to eat, what to wear... CAUSE YOUR SMARTER THAN HIM...
THEN go from there
NOTHING.. what is best for him, what to eat, what to wear... CAUSE YOUR SMARTER THAN HIM...
THEN go from there
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Ehh... cute little responses.
But they ain't gonna work, read a book on child psychology to see what I mean.
The best thing to do would be to set a DJ example. Let him watch and mimic you.
But they ain't gonna work, read a book on child psychology to see what I mean.
The best thing to do would be to set a DJ example. Let him watch and mimic you.
SynapsyS
Don Juan
the first thing that came to mind for me was:
"OMG GIRLS ARE ICKY!"
That's something you should beat out of him, not literally mind you.
But seriously, adding onto what kegger said: Take him sarging. When you approach girls, tell them he's coming along to learn from your awesomeness.
Winnah
"OMG GIRLS ARE ICKY!"
That's something you should beat out of him, not literally mind you.
But seriously, adding onto what kegger said: Take him sarging. When you approach girls, tell them he's coming along to learn from your awesomeness.
Winnah
Get him involved in sh*t like sports really young, because that stuff makes you feel more confident and gets testosterone pumping (if you have it at a young age, I dunno). Be funny around him a lot so he can develop a good sense of humor too. Don't teach him jokes and sh*t, you know what I mean though. When he is around age 12 or 13 that is the time where you can actually explain game to him.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
bolive it or not your at a critical stage right now (yes, even at 2 years old)
let me explain
My cuz hates "pushovers" and wussys. She wanted to raise a "football player" type of guy (don't ask). When she had a son right away she set the tone of the rest of his life. She wanted him to be hi energy guy who wasn't afraid of anything or anybody. Haw did she do this?
-SHE PLAYED ROUGH with him, which forced him to be rough with her. (physically rough)
-she played and made him play high energy games; soccer, footbal....
-she pushed him go play with other kids, even tho he didn't really want to.
-also, make sure that there is nobody telling him that he is worthless or that he is stupid....(from personal experience i can tell you this will damage the child and destroy his tinage years.) that's all there is to it.
he is 5 or 6 now, and there is no stoping him, HE IS A HELL RAISER. when he gets in his teens, there will be no stoping him.
let me explain
My cuz hates "pushovers" and wussys. She wanted to raise a "football player" type of guy (don't ask). When she had a son right away she set the tone of the rest of his life. She wanted him to be hi energy guy who wasn't afraid of anything or anybody. Haw did she do this?
-SHE PLAYED ROUGH with him, which forced him to be rough with her. (physically rough)
-she played and made him play high energy games; soccer, footbal....
-she pushed him go play with other kids, even tho he didn't really want to.
-also, make sure that there is nobody telling him that he is worthless or that he is stupid....(from personal experience i can tell you this will damage the child and destroy his tinage years.) that's all there is to it.
he is 5 or 6 now, and there is no stoping him, HE IS A HELL RAISER. when he gets in his teens, there will be no stoping him.
man i wish i had a little brother... *sigh*
anyways, the best thing u can do is set an example for him. do everything like an alpha and he will become an alpha.
btw, if he is cute (which most 2 year olds would be) u can use him to help u in your endeavours :]
anyways, the best thing u can do is set an example for him. do everything like an alpha and he will become an alpha.
btw, if he is cute (which most 2 year olds would be) u can use him to help u in your endeavours :]