"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alright, now that I have your attention. My actual post.

I don't know what it is about the allure of this site, but I still visit it ten years after I first began coming here.

I just realized the five most important lessons in life, so far.

1.) It's not all about girls. Generally, the better your own life and happiness, the more girls that you will get. I play D&D, magic the gathering, and play a lot of video games. I am a quintessential nerd, but I am still able to get girls (my previous girlfriend began playing D&D because I had such an enthusism for it).

2.) Your life should be all about you (within legal means) - this sounds incredibly mundane, but I believe most people live their lives based on what their families, boss, or external variables.

3.) Have a plan - make a soft plan (one that can change with the times) and work toward it. My plans were set to work in politics, but I had the opportunity to go work in a paleontology site in Nebraska. It entirely changed and I made a new plan.

4.) Read - a lot, the amount that you read generally improves everything that you do. You expand your language skills, have more to talk about, and become a generally better person. Learn often, become smarter, gain the skills, and then expand your work set.

5.) Don't allow your weaknesses to define whom you are - when I first went to college in 2006, I was VERY weak in the sciences. My life entirely changed upon graduation. I went back to school to follow my want to work as a geologist. Before that change over, I refused to take science courses or listen to it. Once the change happened, I changed my weaknesses into strengths.

I don't really find getting girls that much of a challenge anymore. Living life and improving myself is the greater challenge. This is why I rarely mention women, but becoming your best self usually involves getting women to want to be with you.

Be happy. If you are unhappy perpetually, maybe it is time for a change.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Based on your title, I thought this post was going to be to tell us that you have figured out the inner workings of a woman's brain to yet a deeper level than we previously all know. That (your title) is, after all, how they think.

Great post though Sir. I ordered a bottle of +rep and sent it to you up on stage.
 

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logicallefty said:
Based on your title, I thought this post was going to be to tell us that you have figured out the inner workings of a woman's brain to yet a deeper level than we previously all know. That (your title) is, after all, how they think.

Great post though Sir. I ordered a bottle of +rep and sent it to you up on stage.
:crazy: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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From that title I thought Jack Handy had joined SS.
 

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comic_relief said:
I don't know what it is about the allure of this site, but I still visit it ten years after I first began coming here.
I'm fond of this site also, it's almost an addiction for me. Interesting topics, interesting discussions, interesting people. I honestly can't say I've learned the first thing about women, though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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logicallefty said:
Based on your title, I thought this post was going to be to tell us that you have figured out the inner workings of a woman's brain to yet a deeper level than we previously all know. That (your title) is, after all, how they think.

Great post though Sir. I ordered a bottle of +rep and sent it to you up on stage.
whelp that post made my day!

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Couldve said it better myself, well said OP.
 
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