"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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AlexDP

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bigneil said:
So to summarize the wisdom of AlexDP:

If you're dating her, it's because you're nothing special.
If she dumps you, it's because she lost interest.
If you contact her again, it's because you're AFC.
If she replies, it's because you're delusional.
If you get her to reconsider, it's because you need to see a psychologist.
If you see her again, it's because she wants to friendzone you.
If you have sex with her again, it's because you must have paid her.
If she does it free, it's because she feels obliged from previous payments.
If she doesn't make you use protection, it's because she's diseased.
If you never caught a disease, it's because you're lukcy.
If you achieved your goal, it's because you're are a failure.
If your goal is to pay a stripper to have sex with you, then yes, you have achieved your goal. Aim high, neil.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SoSuave666

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bigneil said:
So to summarize the wisdom of AlexDP:

1.) If you're dating her, it's because you're nothing special.
2.) If she dumps you, it's because she lost interest.
3.) If you contact her again, it's because you're AFC.
4.) If she replies, it's because you're delusional.
5.) If you get her to reconsider, it's because you need to see a psychologist.
6.) If you see her again, it's because she wants to friendzone you.
7.) If you have sex with her again, it's because you must have paid her.
8.) If she does it free, it's because she feels obliged from previous payments.
9.) If she doesn't make you use protection, it's because she's diseased.
10.) If you never caught a disease, it's because you're lukcy.
11.) If you achieved your goal, it's because you're are a failure.
2 is true. 3 is possibly true. 6 is true depending on the situation. Chicks will use sex as a means to get you back in their web and then disappear on you again like nothing happened. 10 also might be true if you weren't using protection.

Truth of the matter is, BN, you are wasting a lot of time and effort on the wrong girl. You're not over her, and this saga is going to continue on this board until you finally realize...and I mean finally realize...that this girl is trash. You haven't 'turned off the switch' on her and your feelings haven't changed at all about this girl. You still have the same oneitis you had when you first met her. The way you talk yourself into believing you are making the right decisions is what is really scary. It's narcissism at it's finest to believe that every decision you make/have made is correct. Granted you probably used some good game to get her back into bed with you, but you're missing the one major point: this relationship isn't going to work.

It's a futile attempt at self-preservation. You want to leave on a "high note" as you call it; but I know that what you mean is you want to leave IN CONTROL. You hope that leaving with the upper hand will gain all her attraction back and things will go back to the way they once were. Yea she called you and you declined to hang out 7 times or whatever. How awesome of you. She was probably calling up some other 'clients' right after she hung up the phone with you.

The more time you waste on this girl is less time you spend with a better one.
 
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