Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Quitting smoking ruined my game

DJArlington

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When I was younger I had game (I'm 28 now). Then I quit smoking (this happened about 4 years ago) and proceeded to gain 40 pounds. I'm trying hard to lose the weight but I need to get better. I'm about 5 11' 1/2" and currently weigh 227 pounds. I was 180 before I quit smoking and I used to have girls approach (happened a few times) me.

Since I've quit smoking I have had a few girlfriends, but I feel like I've lost my edge and confidence. ITs weird when I smoked I thought I was such a rebel, even had a few girls tell me I was a bad ass. Now I'm a fat non-smoker whose a nice guy.

This totally sucks. How do I get my edge back w/o going back to the smokes? Has anyone had a similar experience with quitting smoking? I also feel like its harder to meet women. Before I would give them a light, or they would bum a cigarette off of me. It was so easy back in the day.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Cod3r

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I love it, getting lung cancer for a few cold approaches...

It gets NO BETTER than that


-Cod3r
 

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What killed your game was the fact that you didnt replace your bad habit with a good one, like working out and doing cardio. Get on the treadmill and start running.
 

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Ever consider your problem is getting older and your metabolism slowing from you not working out?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJArlington said:
When I was younger I had game (I'm 28 now). Then I quit smoking (this happened about 4 years ago) and proceeded to gain 40 pounds. I'm trying hard to lose the weight but I need to get better. I'm about 5 11' 1/2" and currently weigh 227 pounds. I was 180 before I quit smoking and I used to have girls approach (happened a few times) me...
Did you possibly happen to start eating more than you did when you were smoking? Just wondering.
 

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DJArlington said:
When I was younger I had game (I'm 28 now). Then I quit smoking (this happened about 4 years ago) and proceeded to gain 40 pounds. I'm trying hard to lose the weight but I need to get better. .
Fvck me!!! Same story as me!!! Your matobolism has come to halt due to a lack of stimulant! It's the same stimulant that made me, at times, drop my guts at a hat - nicotine! Running and diet is your answer - I gained 3 stone from 14 to 17. In the end I had to run 5 times a week for 20mins and I lost 2.5 stone...I just need the extra half to get back into my gear! Fvck the weights bollox m8 as you need an activity that can be kept up anywhere!
 

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Yeah dude I am a former smoker myself. What u need to do is workout smoking keeps people thin. Maybe u don't have any game because of your lifestyle. I used to get so much pusy, and once I hit 28.5 my lifestyle changed. I am 30 now and have only screwed one girl the last 1.5 years.

It is probably your lifestyle more than anything else.
 

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you gained weight because you ate more in calories than you burned... you're talking about a lack of self control, not a lack of toxic carcinogens
 

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Quiting smoking can only enhance your life,something else changed. Hopefully you find it!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I don't really smoke, but often times I carry a pack of newports out with me and offer smokes to HBs I've been macking to get some 1 on 1 chatting outside.

You could still carry a lighter, and head outside with a woman, light her's up and tell her you're quitting. It shows some strength and self-control on your part, just don't be condescending.
 
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