"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quitting Por*

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Great and solid advice Flex. Hosts files and setting up multiple barriers to access has great passive benefit to reducing/eliminating porn usage. We fail to our processes and putting things like this in place helps immensely vs thinking sheer willpower will ever be successful on its own.

Another problem with porn is it's never satisfied. The porn that worked a yr ago barely registers as exciting a yr later.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That’s another thing I should also add is like I mentioned earlier in this thread about porn addiction creating cuckolds, I myself have struggled with that temptation too. I’ve caught myself thinking that it could be hot to watch my girlfriend (if I had one) have sex with another guy. But deep down, I know that I would probably regret it and feel like sh*t afterwards. Not to mention that women probably lose respect for you from doing this since you actually let some other guy have his way with her and you watched it happen. I’ve also never had a girlfriend, so I’ve never had sex with emotional feelings and intimacy attached to it and my thoughts on this could change if I were to do that. A friend of mine who I’ve known for years and is also a porn addict admitted to me that this turned him on too, but once he finally found someone and started having relationship sex, he lost all interest in cuckoldry.
 

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I haven't watched any porn in over 5 months.

I haven't jacked off even once, in over 5 months.

I didn't cvm for 4 months straight, up until I smashed a HB7.5 recently.

I'm back on Semen Retention & no porn/no fap, up until I meet a girl who I am super attracted to & want to smash.

How do I feel? It's a fvcking super power when you have complete control over your sexual desires.

I walk with god level confidence, and approach any & every girl that I see who is attractive.

Holding in that semen, is powerful as fuk.
 

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I wish I could quit pork. It's not good for me, and it is produced under abusive and exploitative conditions. But it's hard to quit when the stuff is everywhere and so easy to access.
Yeah and not only that, but if your SMV is low too its even harder to quit because its your only sexual outlet since getting sex with women is extremely difficult.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I haven't watched any porn in over 5 months.

I haven't jacked off even once, in over 5 months.

I didn't cvm for 4 months straight, up until I smashed a HB7.5 recently.

I'm back on Semen Retention & no porn/no fap, up until I meet a girl who I am super attracted to & want to smash.

How do I feel? It's a fvcking super power when you have complete control over your sexual desires.

I walk with god level confidence, and approach any & every girl that I see who is attractive.

Holding in that semen, is powerful as fuk.
That’s very impressive and I hope I can be like how you are someday. I need to improve my life situation to make that a reality for me.
 

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That’s very impressive and I hope I can be like how you are someday. I need to improve my life situation to make that a reality for me.
You need to quit porn more than anything. You were even having PIED issues in the past. That's a wake up call to quit porn. You are like a cocaine or heroin addict with your porn and masturbation.
 

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You need to quit porn more than anything. You were even having PIED issues in the past. That's a wake up call to quit porn. You are like a cocaine or heroin addict with your porn and masturbation.
Yeah and I’m working on it, I’ve made some good progress since the start of the new year. I have still had some slip ups, but I feel like that’s to be expected and the important thing to remember is to not let that turn into a full on bender where you start to think that this week is lost, I’ll start fresh next week and watch porn for the remainder of this week. I’ve gotten it down to where I only look at porn a couple times a week and only once in that day if it does happen and I’m aiming to go lower than that. I was previously looking at it and getting off every single day and multiple times each day.

I’m not sure if you saw what I said over in the main discussion category of the forum, but there’s a singles mixer on Valentine’s Day in my area (who knows if it would be a bust or not) and I’m gonna be honest and say that the chances of me meeting a girl there are probably pretty low but even if I did, I have thought of what if my PIED ruins my chance for a V-Day ONS? That would make me feel worse and very depressed.
 

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If pork is your only sexual outlet, that definitely lowers smv.
While that is true, it’s not only that in my case. I also still live at home with my parents, only deliver for DoorDash when it comes to work, I have no dating experience, and no social circle at 30. Porn addiction aside, I’m self aware enough to know that women would write me off for those other reasons I just mentioned even if I wasn’t addicted to porn.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Apply cold showers as well and when you are finished dont towel dry for 2-3 minutes. Just stand there and deep breath. The more you seek discomfort your brain will habituate to it making you less anxious when you're in a "neutral" state. This default state is the wavelength you want to ride in when you are cold approaching or casually talking to a cute chick or even when you gotta run that fade with another dude if you get pressed.

But if you seek pleasure all the time (porn, hot showers, masturbate) then you'll habituate to that and whenever you aren't experiencing that pleasure you'll feel anxious.
 

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Apply cold showers as well and when you are finished dont towel dry for 2-3 minutes. Just stand there and deep breath. The more you seek discomfort your brain will habituate to it making you less anxious when you're in a "neutral" state. This default state is the wavelength you want to ride in when you are cold approaching or casually talking to a cute chick or even when you gotta run that fade with another dude if you get pressed.

But if you seek pleasure all the time (porn, hot showers, masturbate) then you'll habituate to that and whenever you aren't experiencing that pleasure you'll feel anxious.
Also to add to what you said here and I learned this along the way as well, don’t bring your phone with you in the bathroom when you’re taking a sh*t. Your pants are down and your dik is easily accessible, along with what you need for cleaning up after you’re done. Add in your phone, and it’s a recipe for relapse!
 

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Interesting film on p0rn addiction.
 

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I went no prn/ no fap this time last year. It absolutely helped. Takes a minute but you remember why you like the real thing.
 

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Also to add to what you said here and I learned this along the way as well, don’t bring your phone with you in the bathroom when you’re taking a sh*t. Your pants are down and your dik is easily accessible, along with what you need for cleaning up after you’re done. Add in your phone, and it’s a recipe for relapse!
In other words don't shiit on your progress.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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