Quite the different pickle! (In need of assistance)

[Perfect10]

Hello.

I'll make this short.
For a while ago I got promoted to a manager for all the shops in the city I live.
Now it's cool and all and it's been working great but one problem.
There is this chick that's like 9 years older than me and has been working here for almost a year as shop manager. For what I know by no reason has she been starting to "diss" me, calling me "good boy" and stuff. Now this is work so I can't go negging her back it will just make it our working relations bad. Now I could get her fired but she is really quite good at what she does.

So how do I get her to Shut the f*ck up and obey like the little ***** she is

 

[YAboi]

You know what you need to do?....You need to be a MAN who knows what he wants out of life.That way you know your direction and goals and don't let something petty like this phase you that much.

You need to ignore what she is saying and change the subject. No need to fight back in this case, diplomacy is all thats needed since she is good at what she does and much older than you and is being playful (teasing you to see if she can get your weak point)

At my current job, when i first started working there, this chick who is 5 years my senior said in reference to my age when i told her how old i was ; '' aww your just a little baby'' What did I do?, i ignored her, while changing the subject very slyly by asking her a question about something work related . That shows her indirectly that i don't give a fvck and the truth is why should you?

She hasn't said a thing about my age since then because she sees i don't care and that demonstates i am much more balanced and self-secure than my age would suggest. Also me and her get along just fine without any hidden resentment (at least on my part lol)

You are younger and more successful than she is and it irks her a bit and you know this fact so you should have been smiling inside when she negged /negs you. You know where your life is heading so why let some petty words from a washed up chick affect you?

 

[Perfect10]

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I get you but if she continues with it? And if she does it will spread to other shops. I can't blindly go through this if it turns that way.
But I've got the solution!
The next time IF she says something like that, I'll just say:
- Hah your a lot older than me and still acting like a kindergarden kid. This is a place of work not a place for being childish. That you can do on your own time.

 

[Perfect10]

Espi I agree. That's why I don't want to fire her. She's a good worker that brings in money to the company. I was saying I COULD fire her.
Just being professional with people that act like retards at work... Well it ruins the teamwork. I don't want to call her to ask how it's been and what's possibly missing.

BUT! She sent me an email saying she's sorry for calling me a boy.

It's good to know these kind of stuff for the future.

 

[Cinamon]

The next time IF she says something like that, I'll just say:
- Hah your a lot older than me and still acting like a kindergarden kid. This is a place of work not a place for being childish. That you can do on your own time.

Right there you would get done for age discrimination, is it really worth it?

If you line manage her, you need to raise it in her supervision as being inappropriate behaviour in the workplace, and that although you can take it, the next person may not. Show her you have her best interest at heart without looking petty.

 

[vitor]

Next time she says something smart ass or out of line you say to her

"(insert name here ) I respect you and the work you are doing, but I will not tolerate you being rude, unprofessional, or condesending(sp) towards me. This is work, we both have a job to do. Do you have a problem with me? "

raise your voice a bit and look her in the eyes. You do not want her to quit because you said she is good but you do want her to respect you.

 

[horaholic]

I like to insult people back, while laughing. It seems like you are just busting their balls. I would have said this: (****y smile here) "Yeah, I am a good boy, arent I? (start to walk away) "Hey (name)... (wait for her to turn around) "Let me know if you need any help crossing the street later." (turn around and walk away.)

Agree, and amplify... then let em have it with a wittier comment.

The owner of this restaraunt I used to work at would always say shyt like that to people. It was funny as hell. If you insult someone in a witty enough way, they have no choice but to laugh it off, and give you respect. One time, this employee was bytching at the owner about something, and he says "You know what? I didnt hear that" like he was pissed, then he starts to walk away, then he turned around and said "And even if I did... I wouldn't give a shyt." It was the funniest thing. he could diffuse any situation by insulting people in a funny way. He was the best. RIP.