Quit Holding Back

[Styles]

In the past couple months, I had the chance of having a cool relationship with an engaged girl, but it recently fell apart.

All good things come to an end. lol.

But anyway, the gifted and beautiful girl taught me a valuable lesson that I think alot of young DJs could learn from.

Basically, us guys are having tons of fun just being ourselves until the girl walks into the room. I mean, some of our conversations are just totally ****ed up aren't they fellas? We talk about ****, fart, sports, all types of stuff that decent people don't want to hear. Or do they?

Then a girl comes into the picture and we totally switch it up. We talk about grand things trying to impress them. We bring in all types of deep stuff, and I'm sorry, SHE DOESN'T CARE. Then whenever we are around them, they are overcompensating for our hesitation by saying some off the wall stuff, trying to bring us out. That is because alot of guys have a fear of saying or doing the wrong thing and the girl going "You bastard!", or "You loser" and running away.

Girls sense this. So forget about doing and saying the right thing. Chances are you were having tons of fun before the girl entered the scene, and she was attracted to that. Not to why you are now bringing up the Democratic party.

If you cuss, then continue cussing, because that is probably why she is talking to you. Dignified girls wouldn't be talking to someone who curses all the time. If you don't curse, then don't curse, because nice girls wouldn't be talking to a scoundrel.

Guys consistently call each other on BS. Guys also say the most sincere things to each other. For instance:

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Guy 1(Eyeing a girl as she walks by): Dude do you see that girl. Hot Damn! Only god knows what I would do to her.

Guy 2(Unattracted to her and dissapointed in guy 1): Look at her droopy ass man! What the hell is wrong with you? Her ass looks like it is slapping her ankles while she is walking!
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Now guys wouldn't dream of saying that to a girl alot of the time. QUIT HOLDING BACK.

Girls are around enough BS everyday being around other girls! As long as you aren't crazy or a murderer, anything you do or say is acceptable!

Openly disagree with her! Tell her she is sexy as hell, and tell her in the way you would say to your best friend, IN DETAIL. She will pick up on your sincerity.

Quit holding back your thoughts and actions, because that is where the real you is. Not some ****y and funny memorized line!

 

[Kev07]

A+, this is key. when you don't hold back then the fun starts pouring in.

 

[jmeredi]

Good post. I learned this the hard way a long time ago. I'd reel the girls in cuz I didn't care, but when they showed interest I would freeze up. Personally, now I act like however I want around a girl, and if she don't like it she can eat it.

 

[Doggystyle]

Galvanize!

Yeah man, i totally agree but i think some people should hold back to a degree, cos lets face it, some people are weird. I think that seperates the introverts from the extroverts, extroverts just say it, introverts think it through first and even then they don't say it. Extreme extroverts say exactly what they think about everything, and extreme introverts say nothing at all. I've been one extreme to the other, i think the right balance is required. Being extroverted sounds like it is the best, but saying exactly what is on your mind all the time can get you into trouble, it can get misinterpreted by people and often does.

If anything now its like, oh my god i can't believe i just said that loud, where as previously i would of been a wallflower. Things i refuse to speak about these days even if i'm thinking it is bad mouthing people and complaining, no good ever comes from it, even though it seems like nothing bad will come of it, these things have a way of resurfacing and biting you in the ass when you least expect it. So if anything like this pops into my head these days i do hold back.

 

[rsxtreme]

being a straight shooter is always good.