"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Quick tip: The ballsy response

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I am going to keep this tip very short.

When a girl who you are acquainted with asks, "What are you doing tonight?"

Run with a variation of one of these:

1) "If all goes well, you."
2) "If I play my cards right, you."
3) "Hopefully you."

Things to bring:

1) Balls
2) A smile

Enjoy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Incog said:
I am going to keep this tip very short.

When a girl who you are acquainted with asks, "What are you doing tonight?"

Run with a variation of one of these:

1) "If all goes well, you."
Unsure? she is the prize
2) "If I play my cards right, you."
Unsure? she is the prize
3) "Hopefully you."
she is the prize

Things to bring:

1) Balls
2) A smile

Enjoy.
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I hope you understand why it isn't good from my point of view.
 
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Lmfao!! Definetely using this one today! I love the C&F. But Be advised If your creepy and ugly you might get slapped with a sexual harrasment suit. There are really some guys who shouldn't say stuff like this! Lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AFC and theoretical. Puts her on a pedestal.
 
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Exactly.

An AFC remark like:

2) "If I play my cards right, you."

Easily becomes a cool:

2) "Depends if you play your cards right"

The emphasis being of course, she knows you know you're worthy of her, that you aren't going to chase or try and 'win' her (like the original comment) and that she's the one whose going to have to do the work for you..

Which would be far better for obvious reasons.

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musclyjerk said:
Exactly.

An AFC remark like:

2) "If I play my cards right, you."

Easily becomes a cool:

2) "Depends if you play your cards right"

The emphasis being of course, she knows you know you're worthy of her, that you aren't going to chase or try and 'win' her (like the original comment) and that she's the one whose going to have to do the work for you..

Which would be far better for obvious reasons.

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Right. But you're still missing the link between what and who...so...

Her: What are you doing tonight?

You: Don't you mean 'Who are you doing tonight?' (Cheeky grin etc.);)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This reminds me of something that every DJ should master: Segways!
 
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What about "well, hopefully your mum, but I heard that she was busy tonight so do you want to go for a drink?"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I like the variations. Definitely improvements, but to call the original strategy AFC is not accurate. If it is applied in an AFC manner, tone, with awkward body language, then of course it will come across as AFC.

Confidence is a must, with this as with all other tactics. Try to avoid using this on strangers or females who you haven't worked skills on already. If you jump straight to this, then yes, it will come across as weird.
 
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I've been doin this move since Jr. High School....

Seriouslly, i've been doin this move since Jr. High School and its not AFC at all. I admit that I don't use it with women I've known for less than 2 weeks, but its never recieved a callous reaction. What usually happens is as follows:

Girl: What are you doing tonight?

Me: (Confidently) You

Smile and hold eye contact, and even wink if its in your game. All that happens is the girl will blush, give me the "oh my gawd i can't believe you just said that face", and/or slap me on my arm as I chuckle and ask again while being even more interested in the real answer now. This should be the beginning of a self-fulfilling prophecy if you really intend to "do" her that night.

Other reactions include (usually said as she smiles) "is that what you think?", what makes you think that?, or "You wish."

Those are just the more memorable reactions i've encountered.

Being that I like smart/intelligent & self-confident women, if they can't volley a serve like this, or doesn't find this humorous, then she's pretty much not the woman for me anyways.

Hope this was helpful, as I have used this "line" for years.
 
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No the first were AFC responses

you: if i play my cards right, you (Man this is just setting you up to get ****ttested)very afc and DLV
her:O so you think YOU can get im my pants?
you:(confused cause you thought this would work but shot yourself in the foot so you come up with a response that DMLV and a neediness for your target)



Now this is a better way to say the exact same thing while making it a hell of alto more interesting while accomplishing many things

you: You,(pause) but only if YOUR play your cards right,(basically a male version of a **** test you can use any response she gives to calibrate while not making you look less valued and sets up tension because you look like your DLV by saying YOU pausing then really DHV by setting up a standard she must live up too almost a tension loop in itself)
 
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WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT happened to this place??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Holy Sh1t! How can you people in anyway think that advice is good? The variations are just as bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hate hearing the term AFC, cause 90% of the people who use them are themselves chumps. I guess pook, BBB, Photo1 are all gone huh?

Please, for the love of the lord, don't sit there and think of lines to actaully use if someone says something to you, you can't get more mechanical than that. C&C is good to practice, its jsut good when you think up examples, however, that example is too unrealistic, you sound like Quagmire for fvck's sake!

Trust me guys, in real life Quagmire would not get laid.

THe whole point of C&C is too look c0cky in a cute way, not look like an a$$hole, or lame. ANd all those examples will put you in one of those catagories, depending on how you say it.

Be funny, and wacky, even dirty, but never so blantly towards her about you, and NEVER to a female aquaintance you see around enough to not consider a stranger!
 
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Oh come on, lighten up. ^^

It's a fun line, and if you have balls, confidence body language, and FUN, when you do this, who knows where it'll take you.


If she doesn't like it, so what?


damn man, rules are meant to be broken. Why would you ever use the phrase NEVER like that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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