Nine Breaker
Senior Don Juan
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Infatuation is a real son of a b!tch.
You don’t need me to tell you that though. I’m sure you all know just how annoying being infatuated with a particular woman can get. For whatever reasons, you are just mad for her – and there isn’t anything you can do about it, right?
Wrong.
I’m not going to go into all the do’s and do-not-do’s about infatuation… this time. All I’d like to share is a relatively quick way to try and break that annoying habit and be able to see things in a more “realistic” perspective.
One thing about infatuation is that it is blind. Regardless of what we are thinking at the time about any certain woman, what we are feeling is telling us something completely different. The trick here is to identify with what we know is real, what we know is the truth – that this particular lady isn’t anything better than the one next to her – as far as we really know.
When you find yourself infatuated with a certain woman – ask yourself WHY you’re so hung up over her – what is it about her that makes her so perfect in your eyes? What is it about her that would make you think she is someone that you should be worshipping on a frickin’pedestal???
Yeah, see where I’m going with this?
Infatuation is blind, like I said before. Our minds know that we should be better than an infatuated AFC, so all we need to do is clearly think out what the heck makes this certain girl so special. Ask yourself ***WHY*** you are feeling the way you do about her. If you’ve just met this girl, or don’t know her in any great detail – then you can bet that your feelings are just getting the better of you, that you don’t really know this girl – and you are starting to dream up who this woman is before you have truly gotten to know her. If this is a girl that you have known for some time, then you had better think out logically why you are so attentive to the idea of You & Her all of a sudden. Chances are that she would have you pegged as a friend by now, anyway.
So remember – just ask WHY?
You don’t need me to tell you that though. I’m sure you all know just how annoying being infatuated with a particular woman can get. For whatever reasons, you are just mad for her – and there isn’t anything you can do about it, right?
Wrong.
I’m not going to go into all the do’s and do-not-do’s about infatuation… this time. All I’d like to share is a relatively quick way to try and break that annoying habit and be able to see things in a more “realistic” perspective.
One thing about infatuation is that it is blind. Regardless of what we are thinking at the time about any certain woman, what we are feeling is telling us something completely different. The trick here is to identify with what we know is real, what we know is the truth – that this particular lady isn’t anything better than the one next to her – as far as we really know.
When you find yourself infatuated with a certain woman – ask yourself WHY you’re so hung up over her – what is it about her that makes her so perfect in your eyes? What is it about her that would make you think she is someone that you should be worshipping on a frickin’pedestal???
Yeah, see where I’m going with this?
Infatuation is blind, like I said before. Our minds know that we should be better than an infatuated AFC, so all we need to do is clearly think out what the heck makes this certain girl so special. Ask yourself ***WHY*** you are feeling the way you do about her. If you’ve just met this girl, or don’t know her in any great detail – then you can bet that your feelings are just getting the better of you, that you don’t really know this girl – and you are starting to dream up who this woman is before you have truly gotten to know her. If this is a girl that you have known for some time, then you had better think out logically why you are so attentive to the idea of You & Her all of a sudden. Chances are that she would have you pegged as a friend by now, anyway.
So remember – just ask WHY?