Quick Tip From Some Women

[HereToImprove]

I was having a conversation with some women tonight, one who is a FB, and we were talking about guys approaching and how they said 75% of the guys who approach are absolutely no good. Knowing that this probably isn't the case, I posed the question "How can you tell if a guy is someone you won't be interested in within the first few seconds? You haven't even spoken to him! They can't all be ugly."

And they, to a woman, said this:

"When guys enter a room, we are checking them out. Probably more than you are checking us out. And we know when a guy has checked us out, and then they take an hour of standing around and staring and pretending to do something else and getting up the courage to come over to me. Then, they usually have a cheesy line on top of it. This tells me that they have no courage or creativity."

Its a ringing endorsement of the value of the three second rule. Pretty much the entire conversation on this level reinforced everything we talk about here, such as being a challenge, approaching quickly, setting a positive frame, etc.

 

[undesputable]

Hmm a woman actually says something true and helpful....how old was she?

 

[bud_2005]

I am guilty of this

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This is good stuff. I've learned that when I enter a room (especially with experienced wingmen) I need to size up the fillies and decide quickly who I'd be going after so that I am in command of at least the first wing. A DJ can't be indecisive or complacent when with a capable wing.

 

[Fatality]

So if you wait too long they assume you are a wuss? That's odd because out of all the girls I got at school I waited many weeks before I made a move.

 

[chance]

that's not always true. i never always made moves fast. i sometimes waited until like at the end of a party or something. even after all the looks i got. she was still digging me.

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by chance
that's not always true. i never always made moves fast. i sometimes waited until like at the end of a party or something. even after all the looks i got. she was still digging me.

yep that's basically how it was for me

if she rejects you for not approaching her right away you probably didn't have much of a chance with her to begin with

 

[skyjcky]

Don't take advice from women, thats what I heard.

 

[backbreaker]

it's true to some extent.

However, women aren't the top prority in my life, so if I am actually doing something else, I will finish what I am doing. When I met my current GF, I tho ught she was extremely good looking. I flirted with her, and proceeded to shop for 2 more hours.

I came back later on and told her I tho ught she was good looking and grabbed her #.

It's like letting a women know that they may be cute, but they aren't the most important thing to me.

At the same time, there is a diffeernce between pretending to be busy because you are scared.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by chance
that's not always true. i never always made moves fast. i sometimes waited until like at the end of a party or something. even after all the looks i got. she was still digging me.

That's easy if you are hanging out with a bunch of wall huggers. I'm talking about when there are other capable DJs around. No offense but you wouldn't have much of a chance if you had real competition in the vicinity.