BPH
Master Don Juan
No.
Just no.
Absolutely not.
Longer answer? Ok...
I know a lot of this forum advocates for OLD or online dating, and whether that's due to coping so they don't feel like they have to learn to approach in person, or some other reason, I am here to tell you they're wrong.
Can online dating work? Sure.
Are you more likely to be disappointed? 100%.
But ok, here's the anecdote:
Last weekend was my birthday and I was up in New York visiting my brother and checking out the club scene. In my downtime, I fired up the big 3 dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge) and got swiping. I had never used Tinder Gold before and I was curious whether any of these people who "liked" me were attractive, so I went ahead and bought it for the lowest investment, which was one week, and even bought a boost to use Saturday night to get my profile in front of more people.
I kid you not, I did not swipe right on a SINGLE girl who right-swiped on me...
Now you might think maybe I'm ugly or short or something, so let me give you a little background; I just turned 30 but most people guess I look around 24 or 25. I am 6ft tall and weigh about 205lbs. I am white, have all my teeth, have all my hair, and I was attractive enough that I landed a modeling contract (although they never got me any work, so take that how you will). I would probably rate myself around an 8. I was expecting SOME positive results here, considering I'm good-looking by most accounts and was in the population hub of the USA.
Hot girls DO exist on these dating apps...I saw them...I swiped right on them...but alas I did not match with any of them. At one point while waiting in line at a club I decided to just right swipe on everybody. See Tinder Gold allows you unlimited likes, so I got to the point where I was fed up with who liked me and decided to just filter through whoever matched with me later - I probably right-swiped a couple hundred people (people, not girls, since a lot of the matches I came back to were gay guys identifying as women to try to find closeted dudes, as well as a lot of trans). The result? Every match I saw I unmatched.
It is THAT bad.
Hinge had some absolute dimes, but they're only in your Standouts, meaning you can only like 1 of them per week unless you pay more. Bumble had NOTHING. Tinder had plenty of attractive girls, but clearly, they weren't swiping right on me. I still get a match or two trickling in each night from that weekend when these people bothered to check their phones, but it was way worse than I expected.
And to think I was considering going through the trouble to really invest in my OLD profile...
To any young guys reading this, go out and talk to girls in person, be social and network with people to meet other people, and clean up your public profiles on stuff like Facebook or Instagram. Dating apps can work, they have for me in the past, but my goodness they are not worth investing any real time, money, or effort into.
Just no.
Absolutely not.
Longer answer? Ok...
I know a lot of this forum advocates for OLD or online dating, and whether that's due to coping so they don't feel like they have to learn to approach in person, or some other reason, I am here to tell you they're wrong.
Can online dating work? Sure.
Are you more likely to be disappointed? 100%.
But ok, here's the anecdote:
Last weekend was my birthday and I was up in New York visiting my brother and checking out the club scene. In my downtime, I fired up the big 3 dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge) and got swiping. I had never used Tinder Gold before and I was curious whether any of these people who "liked" me were attractive, so I went ahead and bought it for the lowest investment, which was one week, and even bought a boost to use Saturday night to get my profile in front of more people.
I kid you not, I did not swipe right on a SINGLE girl who right-swiped on me...
Now you might think maybe I'm ugly or short or something, so let me give you a little background; I just turned 30 but most people guess I look around 24 or 25. I am 6ft tall and weigh about 205lbs. I am white, have all my teeth, have all my hair, and I was attractive enough that I landed a modeling contract (although they never got me any work, so take that how you will). I would probably rate myself around an 8. I was expecting SOME positive results here, considering I'm good-looking by most accounts and was in the population hub of the USA.
Hot girls DO exist on these dating apps...I saw them...I swiped right on them...but alas I did not match with any of them. At one point while waiting in line at a club I decided to just right swipe on everybody. See Tinder Gold allows you unlimited likes, so I got to the point where I was fed up with who liked me and decided to just filter through whoever matched with me later - I probably right-swiped a couple hundred people (people, not girls, since a lot of the matches I came back to were gay guys identifying as women to try to find closeted dudes, as well as a lot of trans). The result? Every match I saw I unmatched.
It is THAT bad.
Hinge had some absolute dimes, but they're only in your Standouts, meaning you can only like 1 of them per week unless you pay more. Bumble had NOTHING. Tinder had plenty of attractive girls, but clearly, they weren't swiping right on me. I still get a match or two trickling in each night from that weekend when these people bothered to check their phones, but it was way worse than I expected.
And to think I was considering going through the trouble to really invest in my OLD profile...
To any young guys reading this, go out and talk to girls in person, be social and network with people to meet other people, and clean up your public profiles on stuff like Facebook or Instagram. Dating apps can work, they have for me in the past, but my goodness they are not worth investing any real time, money, or effort into.