"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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slickaz

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ok, so i went to a party last week and i met this fine chic through a mate of mine.
but she looked like one of those prissy uptight chics dowsed in french labels and gold.

anyway i didnt talk to her much, but through the evening i felt that she was talking to me more n more.
But because i had a bad vibe from her right from the start i was being a total d!ck to her. turns out she was pretty funny and started coming back.
so most of the evening we were just talking in the corner and trying to get to know each other a lil more so we could mock the other more.

anyway at the end she took my number. and FB
i go on FB yday and her saying was "I dont like Slickaz Very Much!"

so i commented on it with "xx also goes to therapy for halucinations"

so she called me and started laughing.
and we talked.
half way through she said a joke
and i didnt get it..
so she said "You'll LEARN to understand my sense of humour"
me: "oh learn? so you like me enough to give me a chance to get to know you better?
she: Well yeh i am ringing you aren i? what does that say to you?
me: it says you're a liar..and you lied on FB..
she: yep..i lied on FB but dont tell anybody.k
me: sure its between u n me..but i want one other thing that involves just you and me..
she: i know i shouldnt ask but im tempted to see how creative you get what is it?
me: would you like to grab coffee with me on tuesday at 7pm?
she: Awww..you asking me out? im blushing..
me: you have triggered a corny line so here goes..well unfortunately im not there to witness this event, but i saw something just as gorgeous this morning..the sunrise..
she: awwwwww!!! brownie points, i will see you on tuesday for coffee..
me: cool..ill meet you at xxx spot..
she: k good talkin to you.
me: i know..bye


what do you think?> advice?
 

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CaptainJ

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What is there to say. You're definetly in. The mere fact that she took down YOUR number (not the other way round) and called you says a lot. Girls are rarely that forward. The fact that she let you get away with that cheesy line must show that she's really into you :p. Just keep doing whatever you are doing and don't turn into an AFC on the date. Keep the date fun and probably go for a walk or something "just coffee" could get boring. Kino her too, like taking her hand whilst walking. Hope that's what you we're looking for :p
 

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slickaz said:
i go on FB yday and her saying was "I dont like Slickaz Very Much!"

Good sign here, she's obviously teasing you using her own C/F.

so i commented on it with "xx also goes to therapy for halucinations"

Nice....this was a good response.

so she called me and started laughing.
and we talked.
half way through she said a joke
and i didnt get it..
so she said "You'll LEARN to understand my sense of humour"
me: "oh learn? so you like me enough to give me a chance to get to know you better?

Mistake!! Your giving her value, she should be the one asking you these questions. Your basicallly telling her that you like her with this question.

she: Well yeh i am ringing you aren i? what does that say to you
me: it says you're a liar..and you lied on FB..

Now the whole conversation has taken a wrong turn into you trying to win her over, when it should be spent building the attraction you created at the party.

she: yep..i lied on FB but dont tell anybody.k
me: sure its between u n me..but i want one other thing that involves just you and me..
she: i know i shouldnt ask but im tempted to see how creative you get what is it?
me: would you like to grab coffee with me on tuesday at 7pm?

Why not take her out and do something active? Unless you have excellent conversational skills, coffee could be a killer because you have to entertain her.

she: Awww..you asking me out? im blushing..
me: you have triggered a corny line so here goes..well unfortunately im not there to witness this event, but i saw something just as gorgeous this morning..the sunrise..

Wow dude.... your setting yourself up to land squarely in the friend-zone, not to mention how cheesy you sound.

she: awwwwww!!! brownie points, i will see you on tuesday for coffee..
me: cool..ill meet you at xxx spot..
she: k good talkin to you.
me: i know..bye


what do you think?> advice?


Attractive girls get guys like you all day, everyday. You should have kept the C/F going that you had at the party and that you started at the beginning of the conversation, but instead you went into mushy "I like you" mode. Girls don't feel attracted to guys who are predictable. Right now your predictable and she knows you like her because you basically told her.

Go back to teasing her and busting her ballz if you want to move further with her.



PIMP
 

slickaz

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heheheh..thanks man. yeh im trying to test this new idea of mine..well the idea itself is not new! but i thought id use it.
its basically giving her just nough attention so she asks for more.
i notice though that once or twice i tried complimenting her genuinly might i add because she does look very attractive. and i think it backfired. i did it maybe 3 times since ive known her but yeh im just gonna be creative.

i can tell however, she is clever and is very structured in her communication. like she organizes her words to give just enough info away about her feelings.
so i think by being straight forward with her it might blow my chances.

im being very cautious and articulate my lines properly.

heres an example.
since i said that corny line about the sunrise.
i posted on my FB saying " Slickaz is wondering how you were so well put together"
i was talking about the Nissan GTR that i was looking at previously..but i wanted to see what attention thatd get me on fb.

so i get a reply "why thank you my folks did most of the work but ill take the praise..thank you."
so i replied with "wow, i was talkin about the sunrise i watched this morning and wondering how God made smtn so beautiful..and you..just ruined it.. its sad the state of the world today"

lol...she's been texting me askin me if it was meant for her or not.lol i haven said netn..
 

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slickaz said:
But because i had a bad vibe from her right from the start i was being a total d!ck to her.
What's up Slickaz? I see you got settled into Sydney ok.
Hey man,this part of you post I quoted here,what do you mean by this? You said that you were a d*ck to her. What exactly did you do,say,or what was your behavior towards her?
 

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Cool. Just keep using your style cuz it definitely works for you.

A pimp is a pimp regardless of the location or any other external factor.
 

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Igetit! said:
What's up Slickaz? I see you got settled into Sydney ok.
Hey man,this part of you post I quoted here,what do you mean by this? You said that you were a d*ck to her. What exactly did you do,say,or what was your behavior towards her?
Well when i met her it was through a friend and she was talkin but most of it was mocking other people etc. plus i just felt she was one of those chics decked in gold and flashy clothes with high expectations from water even..

so i was mockin her hard, like everythin she'd say i pick out somethin and destroy her with it makin ppl laugh. i mean she'd laugh too but kinda noticed that she knew she was gettin the ruff treatment.

anyway later on she tried guessin where i was from, i didnt tell her, she was throwin all kinds of guesses and everythin id mock her back with like "wow i look like a mix between a mexican and a nigerian? did you leave the rest of yo creativity in the dryer? geeez its not that hard to guess"

just stuff like that.
anyway later she told me that she over heard me talkin to other people and noticed that i didn mock them but sounded very eloquent and spoke only when it was needed but spoke sense unlike the other guys of my age that talk durt..and asked why i was being rude to her?
i said i was only mockin her and its smtn i do with ppl i feel comfy with and ppl that i think can take it? and asked if she's a lil daddys girl that cant take a lil fun mockery? she laughed and said "if you dish it you better take it too" i said gimme ur best shot..since then its been joke after joke.

anyway i think pimp sicle is right i have lost the plot and acting stupid now, coz i think she gets the idea that i kinda like her. and even though its not a bad thing for her to know, i dont wanna make it ridiculously obvious.
i switched it up earlier today after reading.
she asked me
"you know you're good competition, but dont assume you'll always win, coz then i wont just be cold to you, id be freezin"!
i replied it "ha! you can be freezin if you want but i radiate heat n freeze always losses to heat..."
she: "so does that mean you wanna lose me then?"
me" lose you?y? do you wanna get lost? its fine if you do but im sure you have some! value i cud use somewhere on my list"

no reply since..lol..fvk it..if i lost it then sweet as..i dont care..
 

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The initial message was flirty and fun, sexual even. I am impressed.

Your follow up stuff was junk though. If she was guessing where you were from, over and over again, she was into you and was putting effort into establishing something with you. But you just threw a bunch of CF garbage back at her instead of letting her get to know you. Then when you said this line:

do you wanna get lost? its fine if you do...

that was what made her mad and caused her to stop talking to you. She even mentioned that you were eloquent when talking to other people... THAT was the slickaz she was trying to get to know, not this CF front you gave her.

Don't be afraid to show women who you are. You lost this one because you refused to let her in.
 

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I liked the initial C&F. But it should be used sparingly. You kept playing the same piano note.

The point is to make her realize that your value is as high as hers if not more. And she pretty much accepted that. You did earn her respect. You need to show a "normal" side as well. I'm sure you understand all this. We all make mistakes.

But as I always keep saying this.. no matter how badly you screw up with a girl... you can ALWAYS salvage your chances by showing "preselection" i.e. showing presence of other girls (just as good looking if not more) in your life.
 

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ok thanks for the advice guys..heres what happened.

i flew into tokyo last night.
and i landed got to my hotel room.
i get a call.
answer, and its her.
shes like hi, just thought id call up n see how you are n if you landed ok etc.
so i told her i landed fine and im at the hotel thinkin of gettin dinner through room service.lol.
she said "oh i wish i was there, id cook for you"
me "dont tease me like that girl, i might have you drop everythin there n fly you up just for that.."
she "if you ask nicely i might just do it...lol"

anyway the conversation continued from there and when we finished i noticed she had talked to me for awhile.
i had to cut it off because it was starting to go into too much detail like who my friends are back home and who my exs were.
i didnt answer much of it so she knew i wasnt giving out answers.
anyway so i said my gnyts n she said she was sad to say bye.
but then said bye anyway.

anyway im still playin the field, getting numbers everywhere i go
ill post up something i tried couple days a lil later, when im not at work.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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