"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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King Turi

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Alright so I got a chick on facebook I'm not all that into but there's some potential, anyway question is, since I ain't got her number, what could I send in a facebook message that wouldn't sound too intrusive or creepy?

I usually would just send "Hey, what you up to?" but I decided I might actually try for a response here first, and see what else I could say.

She lives in same town as me so there's potential to meet up somewhere, but I didn't think "Hey let's catch up" would work out so well since she doesn't know me too much, just talk to her every now and then if I see her out.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Be careful with online game, the last thing you want to do is creep the girl out. So first thing's first, how do you know the girl, do you know her from a place you work at, a place at church, etc etc. You'll need to establish that connection first and then you can branch of that.

"You have to be willing to lose the girl to get the girl" - Asian Playboy

There's no guarantee pick up technique, every PUA gets turned down and in this case, you may not be able to pick this girl up, it sounds like you barely even know her, rely on a large set of numbers, not just one girl.

-Kevin
 

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Well I've had her on facebook for ages, I met her like a year ago, just only recently saw her again, met her at like a karaoke thing.

Anyway I wound up messagin' basically "hey what u up to? heard u were in town now, whereabouts" sorta thing.

Gota a positive message back, I replied and didn't get a message back but I didn't ask a question or anything.

How would I go about maybe gettin' her number or something since I don't always have net access, so I can meet up with her or somethin'?

Since she didn't reply to my last message (which was yesterday), dunno whether to message her again later on or somethin', wanna try play this one via advice from here, just to see if it goes any different to what I would usually do.

And she ain't the only chick I'm going after so no one-itis is goin' on here.
 

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King Turi said:
Well I've had her on facebook for ages, I met her like a year ago, just only recently saw her again, met her at like a karaoke thing.

Anyway I wound up messagin' basically "hey what u up to? heard u were in town now, whereabouts" sorta thing.

Gota a positive message back, I replied and didn't get a message back but I didn't ask a question or anything.

How would I go about maybe gettin' her number or something since I don't always have net access, so I can meet up with her or somethin'?

Since she didn't reply to my last message (which was yesterday), dunno whether to message her again later on or somethin', wanna try play this one via advice from here, just to see if it goes any different to what I would usually do.

And she ain't the only chick I'm going after so no one-itis is goin' on here.
Going by the fact that she hasn't messaged you back, you can assume she's really not that interested. Any girl will reply to a first message like the first one you sent. The second time however, she didn't message you back perhaps cluing you into the fact that she doesn't really want to talk to you because she isn't eager to get back to you.

The problem is not that she doesn't like you, it is that she just doesn't know you. If a girl isn't comfortable, then she is automatically going to decline any invitation to hang out/go on a date.

I think you should wait to see if she messages you back. If not, you should just move on and hope that you bump into her so you can game her. Gaming her over facebook is not ideal, especially when you have nothing concrete to build upon.
 

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Well I know her well enough to get her number if I asked for it next time I see her, her and her mate like me a lot, I hadn't seen them in ages and saw them again like 2 weeks ago and figured I'd pursue one of them (something I should have done like a year ago).

It's not like I met her once and added her to facebook, used to see her pretty much every week for a few months.

But yeah, I'll wait and see what happens basically, ain't gonna force nothin' though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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