"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So, just as a heads up, this is my first post.
Although I've been reading a lot of this stuff lately.
What I'm taking from it isn't necessarily new techniques, but just being able to gain some confidence, which is something I lack.

So my question is this:
I'm slowly getting better at number closing. I've been able to get a good conversation going, and it works. However, 2 girls that I've recently number closed haven't responded to my calls/texts. Just wondering what you guys think is the best way to get a positive response to a follow up. I personally feel there was a connection with both girls (they both said they really wanted to hear from me) but maybe I messed up on the follow up. I know some of you will say that I just need to number close more often, which I'm well aware that that's totally true, but I just wanna hear what works for you guys.
Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What message did you send them? While talking to them, what was their body language like?


And good job getting out there and putting it all into action troop :box:
 

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PrinceKong said:
What message did you send them? While talking to them, what was their body language like?


And good job getting out there and putting it all into action troop :box:
Thanks man!
I'm glad to finally be getting some results, but apparently, it's not working all that well!
First girl: Definitely an 8-9, great body language, kissed me on both cheeks, said she really wanted me to call her. BUT, I think she was pretty drunk.
She lived in Ottawa (I'm in Toronto), moving down a week or so after I first met her. I added her on Facebook, told her I'm down for showing her the city when she gets in, no response. Never followed up after that.
Second girl: 8, met her on Friday, got her number. Also seemed a little intoxicated. Either way, great body language and eye contact. She also told me she really wanted to hear from me. Just sent a text about an hour ago saying I promised her a get together, and that I'm busy this week but I'm free Wednesday night. No response YET.
PS - If I don't get a response by Tuesday, should I call?
 

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First girl: Why didn't you call instead?

Second girl: I have a rule of mine, always communicate through the phone, and no exception for me. I would have called instead of replying with another text message. But yea, call Tuesday night if it's left unknown.


Don't worry, everything you do is only a chance to improve.
 

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PrinceKong said:
First girl: Why didn't you call instead?

Second girl: I have a rule of mine, always communicate through the phone, and no exception for me. I would have called instead of replying with another text message. But yea, call Tuesday night if it's left unknown.


Don't worry, everything you do is only a chance to improve.
Word. I'm getting better and more comfortable with experience, and in the end, that's all that matters.

So, I didn't call the first girl because she gave me her Ottawa number. I wasn't gonna call long distance, I felt that might've looked a little needy. So I added her on Facebook. I wouldn't mind giving her a shout again, she was pretty hot.

And yeah, the second girl, I contemplated waiting until tomorrow and calling her on my lunch break, but I don't know why I changed my mind. Text messages give the other person an easier chance to ignore you. I should've called, but if I don't hear from her, I'm calling her on Tuesday.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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