"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quick question?

aussiegoat55

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So at this dance, this one chick and I throughout the night got closer and closer until we kissed/frenched. After that we went for a drive and along the drive she asked, "Aren't you going to pull over?" to which I responded quite cooly and calmly "No". Was this a good thing to do by maintaining control or did it show wussiness?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Lol, not the way most guys would handle it, but I approve. Sure, you could have f"*cked her tonight, but I mean, if you could tonight, why not another night on YOUR terms? You should be making the decisions after all. I like it. :up:
 

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Thanks guys, yeah, thats what I thought, just wasnt sure if I maybe had made her feel less attractive or wasn't "man" enough to go for the big move, etc. But at the time, I didnt want to pull over, so I was just doing what I was doing.
 

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aussiegoat55 said:
Thanks guys, yeah, thats what I thought, just wasnt sure if I maybe had made her feel less attractive or wasn't "man" enough to go for the big move, etc. But at the time, I didnt want to pull over, so I was just doing what I was doing.
How did she react? Just curious.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DontQuitYet said:
How did she react? Just curious.
Um, didnt get a good read at first, but less *****-cat ish, probably shocked/dissapointed inside, but she said she'd love to see me again, so, I'm not complaining.
 

The Shocker

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She's curious.
 

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Alright, another question, same girl. I had set up another date, but she doesnt know where we're going, she agreed, so I said your're going to need to bring this, this, and that for the date. She said, "Wow, you scare me. See you then." What could this mean? Also a long long time ago she had said "I am afraid of you because I don't know what you're thinking", to which I said, smiling and sarcasticly, "Yeah, Im a very terrifying person."

Logically, I want to say to her how so, why are you afraid? But I think a more of a C/F approach would be better. Hopefully shes not afraid in a stalker sense, but then again shes agreeing to see me again.

Do women want some one they're afraid of or real comfortable with? Any thoughts on any of this? Good thing or a bad thing?
 

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aussiegoat55 said:
Hopefully shes not afraid in a stalker sense, but then again shes agreeing to see me again. QUOTE]

And hopefully shes not agreeing out of fear, but she said she would love to hang out, even though and after I said "You up for another date? Of course you are, so what time will I see you?"

Dam her mixed messages and my second questioning!
 

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Hey man, Its cool you do your C+F thing, because moments will coem when you can be honest and open with her, and then you can say 'well I was only joking when I said such an such a thing' an shell be like 'yeah i know' an itll be cool man!
Because if you go out with her a few times, your bound to have a 'moment' of openness soon, an itll be easy!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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No you're doing all the right things. Anyone who is intense, confident and knows what they want are intimidating, not only to women. But it's also refreshing.
 
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