"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quick question, asked her out, got this reply thoughts?

TheGambino

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Yo bros

I talked to a girl on Facebook I knew from my last schoolyear. I chilled with her and her friend at school, smoked ciggs together and talked about vacation, even some sexual fun talk fo a bit. Anyway Im going to her city to meet a friend this weekend and I messaged her on facebook. She insta replies and gives out her number when I asked. I told her Im coming to her city soon, that im going out with a friend and his friends (i dont know) and if shes up for a drink or 2. She says I dont have any plans yet so I might come yes!. I played it cool and talked about something else for a bit. Today I asked her a specific question about shisha lounge (waterpipe, i like to smoke that sometimes) in her city, she replies and I messaged 'You def should come! The bar is new and I only heard good things about it' She replies: yeees I would love to come, but I dont like to be seen in that specific bar, and Im also invited for a party, but I might come after the party ill let you know!' So I replied with okee no problem let me know'

You guys think shes going to show up and why all the 'i might come' all of a sudden she has a party and wants to come afterwards? hmmm not sure about this broad any thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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its funy that you gave me advise in another thread I started but ok...

Reality check: "I might see you, I dont know if I'll be free, I'll let you know...etc...etc" all this is her way of saying that she is not interested in you. Plain and simple. It is a way to prolong your agony, I mean, the time you will spend wondering if she wants to hang out with you, asking her out several times before you give up etc.

If she wanted to see you, she would have said instead:

"I will meet you at 23:00 after the party. I am free On Sunday or Monday, what do you prefer?. I have to go to the gym but we can met afterwards if you like, what about 20:00?. Do you wanna go to grab a coffee? Etc, etc."


It is this simple. Don't let your hopes and her games trick you.

We see this same thing over and over in this forum, girls giving lame confusing excuses not to see a guy, and the guy here asking over and over if she is interested or not. No, she is not.
 

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It looks like low interest or the forthcoming of a flake. I'd go after a more interested girl.
 

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TheGambino said:
Yo bros

I talked to a girl on Facebook I knew from my last schoolyear. I chilled with her and her friend at school, smoked ciggs together and talked about vacation, even some sexual fun talk fo a bit. Anyway Im going to her city to meet a friend this weekend and I messaged her on facebook. She insta replies and gives out her number when I asked. I told her Im coming to her city soon, that im going out with a friend and his friends (i dont know) and if shes up for a drink or 2. She says I dont have any plans yet so I might come yes!. I played it cool and talked about something else for a bit. Today I asked her a specific question about shisha lounge (waterpipe, i like to smoke that sometimes) in her city, she replies and I messaged 'You def should come! The bar is new and I only heard good things about it' She replies: yeees I would love to come, but I dont like to be seen in that specific bar, and Im also invited for a party, but I might come after the party ill let you know!' So I replied with okee no problem let me know'

You guys think shes going to show up and why all the 'i might come' all of a sudden she has a party and wants to come afterwards? hmmm not sure about this broad any thoughts?
When someone tells you they'll "Let you know" they pretty much just "let you know". Don't bother asking again. If she hits you up make small talk but don't ask her to meet up again as you'll start showing her she's more important than things you have to do or plans you've already made.

Don't dwell on it or chase her for an answer. She got your message. It's up to her to confirm, decline or "forget". You've already done your part. In the meantime do you regardless if she goes or not or "forgets". Then you forget about it yourself.
 
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