Quick fix for oneitis?

[clicheusername20]

I'm developing serious oneitis for a HB7. Oneitis to the point where I don't make moves on other girls who are interested, where I cancel plans with my bros if hanging out with her is even an option. Pathetic stuff like stalking her FB, getting upset when she doesn't respond, etc. I need SS's help to talk me out of this, because none of the logical reasons I can give myself are helping. She's only an HB7. She's not that good in the sack. She's always busy and flaky and frustrating to coordinate with. I have one semester left in undergrad before I leave, and I don't want to waste it chasing this girl only to turn around in 5 months and kick myself for wasting my time. I need a quick and immediate fix. I have tried NC but she ALWAYS reaches out and I don't have the will power to ignore her/turn her down

 

[RangerMIke]

On man.... you have to work on yourself and learn to control your emotions. If you absolutely can't then you need to break things off with her... tell her you need space and for her to stay away. Burn THE bridge And Walk away.

But you have to figure out why you are so drawn to her and work on this. She is filling some need you have and if you don't fix this about yourself it will happen to you again. You Run the risk of letting your emotions take control of your life.

 

[Leif_Johnson]

For starters, stay off Facebook. Everytime you feel the need to log in don't do it. Start doing what you used to do before you met her. I mean you lived life before you met her, you can still do it again as you know her.

What you need to do is start working out. Working out gives you positive energy that clears your mind making you feel good. Make plans with friends and with other women and stick to those plans.

This girl isn't FB stalking and putting her life on hold for you. Why do it for her? When you start getting your mind on other things you will see she doesn't matter. It's all in your mind. Don't forget that having more women is better than one.

 

[Thorninmyside]

I was like you a year ago. I got Tinder, signed up for a singles website purely and simply because just seeing that there are a million other fish in the sea got rid of my desperate mindset and into and abundance mindset. Obviously meeting real world girls is important, but since you want a quick fix, go and see what a meat market some of those sites can be. I like thaicupid.com because I spend half my year in bangkok.

When you see with your own eyes how many options there are, you don't lean on the one option, which ironically makes you way better at getting that option.

 

[bigneil]

Obviously, the other girls hitting on you are only HB6.

 

[MattR1984]

For me a new girl wasn't enough unless she was hotter then the one I was hung up on. Then I would totally forget the ex and focus on the new exciting hotter girl. That's my advice and always has worked for me.

 

[Trump]

- I'm developing serious oneitis for a HB7.
- Pathetic stuff like stalking her FB, getting upset when she doesn't respond
- She's always busy and flaky and frustrating to coordinate with.
- I have tried NC but she ALWAYS reaches out and I don't have the will power to ignore her/turn her down

- I need a quick and immediate fix.

Bro the only way for a "quick and immediate fix" is for us to deliver a hot female superstar to your door. And that isn't going to happen. :nono:

If you are having regular sex with her, you shouldn't be getting oneitis, you should be getting bored of her. Something here you are not telling us...maybe your ego doesn't think you are good enough for other girls and you can't attract anyone else? Maybe you like saving her and rescuing her? :crazy:

 

[clicheusername20]

Bro the only way for a "quick and immediate fix" is for us to deliver a hot female superstar to your door. And that isn't going to happen. :nono:

If you are having regular sex with her, you shouldn't be getting oneitis, you should be getting bored of her. Something here you are not telling us...maybe your ego doesn't think you are good enough for other girls and you can't attract anyone else? Maybe you like saving her and rescuing her? :crazy:

See the thing is it's not "regular." It's so spur of the moment and random and I don't have much control if any over when it happens. It seems like it happens more on her terms than my terms. We talk via text more regularly than we hang out, something I very recently learned is not good from this forum. Maybe I'm just addicted to the chase, hanging onto false hope, idk...just can't seem to shake this one from my mind