"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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quick/dirty advice on how to proceed?

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met two teenagers (19) (20) at a hookah bar during random going out.
first approached the "cooler" and better dressed one, the younger (and hotter) seemed jealous. Played the "five question" game with the "cool" chick and dum(b)ass failed in question three when I asked

How many have I asked so far?

She goes "three"

and then

'oh dang, I was supposed to give wrong answers'..

the other one showed strong kino when I went out to the bathroom, she practically grabbed my hands, and me almost her boobs. :crackup: what a smoking little thing that she was. A clear 8 in my book. And naive as hell.

Long story short, I number-closed the hotter chick and definitely felt like I attracted her. Later exchanged text messages and she's going to Indy (an hour of drive) with the same girl and she told me she'll be back at 10PM tomorrow.

She gave me some background info:

She lives with her sister
Sister parties hard.
She's 18 but she "feels older"
Smokes occasionally.
Tried to qualify herself a lot, like ' I speak German, I do this I do that' blah blah...

I want her in my apartment, period.

Would asking her to come hang with me tomorrow night be too bold or too aggressive?


I am almost fully content with women at this point (nobody around for few months though) so rejection or failure won't hurt much.

give me some suggestions on how to proceed?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Boilermaker said:
I want her in my apartment, period.

Would asking her to come hang with me tomorrow night be too bold or too aggressive?

give me some suggestions on how to proceed?
would you tarnish fair maiden with such caddish intent? would you seek to rip the very petals from this rose among thorns? does the lust within your loins have more power over your mortal shell than the god given brain you have?

why do you even need to ask this question? seriously its worrying
 

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betheman said:
would you tarnish fair maiden with such caddish intent? would you seek to rip the very petals from this rose among thorns? does the lust within your loins have more power over your mortal shell than the god given brain you have?

why do you even need to ask this question? seriously its worrying

wait. what?
 

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you are a man, go for it fgs!
 

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betheman said:
would you tarnish fair maiden with such caddish intent? would you seek to rip the very petals from this rose among thorns? does the lust within your loins have more power over your mortal shell than the god given brain you have?
Poet ;)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just get her over, fill her full of booze and then give her the most amazing fvck of her young life.
 

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Didn't work unfortunately, another flake in the wind :p

Yeah I pushed for it and called her to hang out.
She didn't respond for a day to my text and I called her out on it and said

You could easily say 'No thanks' and I would be fine. I think I deserve that much of courtesy, good luck!


She immediately replied by apologizing and how she didn't have her phone yesterday and adding that she thinks I am a little too old for her

( That really hit me ! Sh!t, I thought I had a decent chance with 18 year olds. )

to which I said

"Be civil to guys who hit on you, bye! :) "

I didn't do it just because I was butt-hurt (I admit that I was) , I also did it for the next guy who will interact with her.

Women of this generation feel they are unaccountable and they can do whatever they damn please so I feel we all have a social responsibility to restore and demand respect.

I know some people might criticize this exchange but I believe in the notion of helping the next guy in line.

See Zarky's musings on this.
 
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