"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CaConfused said:
It was sharply divided on this board, but I texted this;

1:10p - me to her "Something came in AM. Don't want to run circles around you anyway. :) lets slow it down and do afternoon hike and sushi."

5:54 here to me "Hey sorry left my phone at my sister's house and just got it back. Sat afternoon is perfect!"

BOOYAH!
Good stuff:up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well.. I thought we made nice work.

Then this morning at 8:50 I get this text from her

"Hey something came up and I won't be able to make it out there today :( Family stuff!"

No idea how I should respond. Just "Cool, talk to you later?" ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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coachD said:
Don't respond
Saw this a minute too late. I did a little research on old threads on this site regarding flakes and found this line that I responded with:

"OK, I'll see how you make it up to me before I pass judgment."

How do you think of that?
 

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CaConfused said:
Saw this a minute too late. I did a little research on old threads on this site regarding flakes and found this line that I responded with:

"OK, I'll see how you make it up to me before I pass judgment."

How do you think of that?
She's a useless flake. The sister's house thing is BS. The "family stuff" excuse is BS.

Bottom line is that SHE is BS.

Drop her, delete her number and never look back. She is good for nothing and doing nothing other than wasting your time for a selfish reason; patting her own ego that she can have you whenever she wants.
 

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Her loss.

Stop contacting her now. She made up a lame excuse with no counteroffer. If she counteroffered then I say keep going but she didn't. She didn't "lose her phone" either.

Game over on this one.
 

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Yeah, that's a bad sign. Lack of any counter offer is disappointing.

If you are really interested, let it sit for a week or until she contacts you, and follow up with what I said before - give her a ping, see where interest lies in the first couple texts, then go for a meet-up if it seems there's interest.

If it fails there, it's a done deal and move on. Even then odds are against ya.

My guess is she never replied to your text there, either.
 

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A lot of you guys go overboard on the CF, in my opinion. If every text or contact is something that's supposed to be witty, you start to look needy and have no "cool" about you.

Try something more serious. "Hey you, I'm going hiking at [wherever] this Saturday and I just thought of you. Why don't you come on with me? Hike and a nice lunch."

And leave it at that. Too much CF is an easy tell of your hand.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
She's a useless flake. The sister's house thing is BS. The "family stuff" excuse is BS.

Bottom line is that SHE is BS.

Drop her, delete her number and never look back. She is good for nothing and doing nothing other than wasting your time for a selfish reason; patting her own ego that she can have you whenever she wants.
Agree with this. Not necessarily using you for her ego, but I'm sensing very low interest on her part. But yours is super high, and you're not doing a good job of hiding it. So naturally, she knows you're interested, want to meet up and date, and she keeps brushing you off. Usually how it works.

It's better to let them chase and initiate, IMO.

But she's not putting any effort into ****, so she might not be that interested. She's just agreeing and making up excuses to not show up - with NOTHING inbetween. She SHOULD be contacting and wanting to see YOU.

The first date or meet up is just them being intrigued about a new prospect. Doesn't mean ****, and initial interest can change very fast.

Every time a girl acted like this - regardless of when - she had low interest. High interest - even with the same person, at different periods - was when they were contacting constantly, missing me, wanting to see me RIGHT NOW, complimenting and flirting, talking sexual... The works... With little effort on my part. When I was doing all the work, and they were very nonchalant and incommunicado and just hesitantly agreeing to meet over time - they didn't give a ****, and had very little interest.

Chicks with high interest usually come on pretty strong, and are all eager and excited. The infatuation bubble is in full play. Not seeing that here.
 
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