intrextrovert
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Ask her out now imoS.Y.L said:
If she starts saying no to those questions, which she will be forced to if you don't do something, the window starts closing.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Quick Back to school tips
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If she starts saying no to those questions, which she will be forced to if you don't do something, the window starts closing.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ask her to join you hanging out or going somewhere outside of school. At this point make sure she knows your intentions are romantic (and not by telling her directly). Just spending time alone together does not necessarily convey romantic intentions. Keep the kino up, escalate it when you think it's appropriate. If she has been kino-ing back, then you can take the kino a step further than she has used it on you.
When you do get her somewhere alone, and not extremely public, go for the kiss. Don't ask her or anything, just go in and do it. If you've done well up to that point and she likes you enough, then she'll be into it.
When you do get her somewhere alone, and not extremely public, go for the kiss. Don't ask her or anything, just go in and do it. If you've done well up to that point and she likes you enough, then she'll be into it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
dj_jazzybrad
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Looks like you were a little too clingy. Depending on the girl, you may already be too deep in the friend zone. You should have made a move faster.S.Y.L said:
jeffthechef
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I would leave her alone for a while...if she doesn't initiate contact with you after leavin her alone for some time...she prolly doesnt care..
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
jeffthechef
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what do you mean you failed at talking?
When she wants to talk, talk. and try to make it fun.
the annoying part isn't because you talk to her, it's because she thinks you dont have anything better to do but come to her. Talk have fun but make sure you're keepin up with your friends, sports, hobbies, school.
When you're on this site, after a while, you're intaking so much information that you stop using your own SPIDEY senses. We're not there, you are. This site should only help you recognize some of the things you're doing wrong and right; it shouldn't dictate your every move.
Just keep that in mind :woo: :cheer: :rock:
:box: :crackup:
When she wants to talk, talk. and try to make it fun.
the annoying part isn't because you talk to her, it's because she thinks you dont have anything better to do but come to her. Talk have fun but make sure you're keepin up with your friends, sports, hobbies, school.
When you're on this site, after a while, you're intaking so much information that you stop using your own SPIDEY senses. We're not there, you are. This site should only help you recognize some of the things you're doing wrong and right; it shouldn't dictate your every move.
Just keep that in mind :woo: :cheer: :rock:
:box: :crackup:Bonafide
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Dude im having a hard ****ing time keeping eye contact with chicks cuz I mean Im thinking that they might feel threatened because anytime I hold contact with a female its a long ass time its like they never look away from me maybe 2 out of 5, then I think like "maybe shes like wtf are you staring at" and im getting this sense that chicks think im too stuck up.... I mean I hear it all the time, from everybody and I dont know whyt they think this way...quite frankly though I dont care, I just dont want it to be effecting my game
I don't know if you still need tips, but don't jump on any girl that says your hot the first week of school, even if she is hot/popular. I did this, and I am not looking forward to next week at all, annoying girls suck..... :cuss: :cuss:
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
^^ what do you mean by that. The girl that I like btw, isnt that popular, same popularity as me I would say.
It seems I keep trying to get her, and then something happens where she says I'm annoying or something she finds against me, I try again, and then I get even closer to going out with her.
I was almost there this time. I feel if I try a few more times, if not once more, I got her.
It seems I keep trying to get her, and then something happens where she says I'm annoying or something she finds against me, I try again, and then I get even closer to going out with her.
I was almost there this time. I feel if I try a few more times, if not once more, I got her.
jeffthechef
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have you asked her out somewhere alone yet?
it's the best way to find out if she's interested in getting to know you..then on the date you can use the stuff on this site to help you guage her overall interest..if it feels good then set up; another time..
eventually if you keep escalating the kino and intensity..she'll ask what you guys are (bf/gf..friends.)
it's the best way to find out if she's interested in getting to know you..then on the date you can use the stuff on this site to help you guage her overall interest..if it feels good then set up; another time..
eventually if you keep escalating the kino and intensity..she'll ask what you guys are (bf/gf..friends.)
coolf1r3
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popularity doesn't matter
just be confident and comfortable and she'll naturally be attracted to you :]
just be confident and comfortable and she'll naturally be attracted to you :]
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.