"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quick Back to school tips

S.Y.L

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Tomorrow I'm going back to school. What are some last minute small tips and reminders I can get. Last few years, I wasn't even a nice guy, I didn't talk to girls much at all, and this year I'm not afraid of anything. I also got in better shape, and dropped 30lbs.

Tips on talking and body language would be most appreciated. Thanks.

Also, the girl I like, tomorrow, should I attempt to walk home with her, since she likes almost across the street?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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BlakeW5

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Don't talk too fast. Take your time when talking. Most low-value people talk quick to try and get in as much as they can before the other party quits paying attention. Don't ask too many questions, it isn't an interview or and interrogation.

Avoid nervous body language. Don't move too fast or jerky, don't twiddle your fingers, don't walk around with your hands in your pockets, etc. etc. Keep a good posture, stand up straight and keep your shoulders back (don't slump). Be "open" with your body language, aka take up space with your body. Stay relaxed. Don't let yourself tense up.

And yeah, why not walk home with her? When walking home will you arrive at her house or your house first? If you get to your house first, just part ways. You can eventually work up to actually escorting her home (you get what I'm saying?). When you're walking home the two of you can talk, just don't force the conversation, it comes across as try-hard.

Just some of the stuff I thought of off the top of my head. Hope it helps.
 

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be enthusiastic and super friendly.
Remember, its a new year, a fresh slate. a new start
take everything you learnt on this site, and USE IT
 

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If you tend to get nervous and see yourself speeding up, stuttering, w/e, just slow down. Do things slower, speak slower, you'll have more time to think and will be more chill. This is only if you have a problem with doing stuff too fast sometimes. Also to avoid fidgeting, try putting thumb and first two fingers of each hand together (hands seperate tho, like at your sides or wherever), should remove the urge to fidget or put them in your pockets.

And walk her home, yeah. Good luck.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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S.Y.L

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I offered to walk her to school too, and she said yes, and wants me to go to her house and pick her up there. I said yes.
 

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Do a search, you could find a lot better body language stuff then we could give you. Just remember to breathe and lean back. Smile and talk to everyone. Simple.
 

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Eye Contact!! its allllllllllll about eye contact...

when you manage to catch an attractive girls eyes, hold it until she looks away first. It shows her that you are not afraid of checking her out.
 

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Sounds about right. Anything I should do while walking with her?
 

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S.Y.L said:
Sounds about right. Anything I should do while walking with her?
Talk? Don't force the convo, just talk to her like you would your friends.

Just do whatever feels right
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There are a bunch of topics I've created before that I think many people will find useful.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136810
This is a link to a topic where I posted videos of the most useful seminar on the subject of kino which is arguably the most important aspect of gaming.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130091
This is my second most viewed topic and it covers body language. I could have added more but these are general outlines, and what I've learned is that once you learn the general stuff, you learn the detailed stuff mostly on your own automatically.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=150269
My most recent one, but if you're just looking for a quick tip and read, check it out.
 

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just be prepared to get made fun of (friendly joking) and to shoot back at them.
 

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All you need to do is remember everything you already have learnt from here. High school is so much easier cos you already know people and you're mindset is to be friends with everyone seeing as you're at school together. And seeing as it's a new year who cares if anyone thinks you're different, it's for the better.
 

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Kk, It went pretty good, even people who used to make fun of me for being fat were like, wow you look good. Girls were saying I look amazing, and I was a little bit nervous at first, but it all worked out.

I didn't walk home with that girl though, because her parents picked her up, because she had a dentist appointment. I walked to school with her, and we talked, a few pauses but it went decent.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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jeffthechef said:
what's it like going to school in america? on tv it's huge and there are lots of people..and i've been seeing a lot of people talkin bout bullyin and fighting and fuking...this isn't even close to my experience...
TVs pretty exaggerated. It's probably similar to where you live, there are some big and rough schools, some small and a million in between. Personally I go to a pretty small school.
 

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Ok, A few people have asked me if me and the girl I like are going out, because we always walk to school and back together, hang out at lunch together, always talk to eachother etc...

This good or bad or w/e???????
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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