The following should be used when Approach Anxiety is holding you back:
How to describe a target:
Most of us are always on the lookout for attractive women. Then when we spot one, shortly afterwards all these thoughts start to flood our heads. Thoughts like ; 'Nice', 'Brunette, 9', 'HB 10', 'Wow, shes cute'
For people who suffer from Approach anxiety this is the equivalent of trying to start a car while rolling downhill. Already your putting her on a pedistol and shes done nothing to earn it. You become more excited than you really should be, telegraphing way to much intrest from the start.
Next time you spot a target describe very basic elements about her to yourself that won't get your hormones raging. Some examples:
- Hot Brunette with the tight tank top becomes:
Brunette in the white shirt
- Blonde with the nice backside becomes:
Blonde next to the red car
- Red Head, 9 becomes:
Red head in the blue tanktop
Trust me you'll notice the difference immediatly
Audibilize Your Type:
Sometimes we spot a target that we classify as 'just my type.' With approach anxiety this adds unecesary pressure. Not only is she attactive, but at least on the outside shes everything you look for. The first thing you should do is use the tip above. However when this situation comes along try this.
Convince yourself that this girl is definatly not your type, but for the sake of racking up experience you'll approach her anyway.
So for example
if your type is brunette, petite, and a little bookish
you switch it for the time being to
Blonde, busty, party girl, thats older than you.
Then you approach your target that just a second ago was exactly your type.
and vice versa.
One more quick example:
If your type is Busty Latin Girls than
you switch it too
Red headed petite white girls.
Hope this helps. By the way do not use these tactics as a substitute for the 3 second rule.
How to describe a target:
Most of us are always on the lookout for attractive women. Then when we spot one, shortly afterwards all these thoughts start to flood our heads. Thoughts like ; 'Nice', 'Brunette, 9', 'HB 10', 'Wow, shes cute'
For people who suffer from Approach anxiety this is the equivalent of trying to start a car while rolling downhill. Already your putting her on a pedistol and shes done nothing to earn it. You become more excited than you really should be, telegraphing way to much intrest from the start.
Next time you spot a target describe very basic elements about her to yourself that won't get your hormones raging. Some examples:
- Hot Brunette with the tight tank top becomes:
Brunette in the white shirt
- Blonde with the nice backside becomes:
Blonde next to the red car
- Red Head, 9 becomes:
Red head in the blue tanktop
Trust me you'll notice the difference immediatly
Audibilize Your Type:
Sometimes we spot a target that we classify as 'just my type.' With approach anxiety this adds unecesary pressure. Not only is she attactive, but at least on the outside shes everything you look for. The first thing you should do is use the tip above. However when this situation comes along try this.
Convince yourself that this girl is definatly not your type, but for the sake of racking up experience you'll approach her anyway.
So for example
if your type is brunette, petite, and a little bookish
you switch it for the time being to
Blonde, busty, party girl, thats older than you.
Then you approach your target that just a second ago was exactly your type.
and vice versa.
One more quick example:
If your type is Busty Latin Girls than
you switch it too
Red headed petite white girls.
Hope this helps. By the way do not use these tactics as a substitute for the 3 second rule.