"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quick Alpha Male test

BuckwildNYC

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Alot of people question what is an alpha male and if they are one. Here's a quick test to see if you are socially an alpha male. Ask yourself "Am I hanging out with people, or are people hanging out with me". It's that simple. Are you a tag along or are you the guy that makes the plans and coordinates everybody. When you get to the club, are you the one who goes and talks to the bouncer or are you waiting in the back for your friend to get you in. Are you asking your friends what are we doing tonight or are you calling people and telling them what we are doing tonight. When you take a girl on a date do you ask her what she wants to do or do you let her know you have an awesome night planned out.

Like Mystery says, if you are not the alpha male of your group, you are not getting laid, at least not by the most desirable girls. So let me reiterate... "Am I hanging out with people, or are people hanging out with me". The answer to this question will tell you alot about yourself.......
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BuckwildNYC said:
Alot of people question what is an alpha male and if they are one. Here's a quick test to see if you are socially an alpha male. Ask yourself "Am I hanging out with people, or are people hanging out with me". It's that simple. Are you a tag along or are you the guy that makes the plans and coordinates everybody. When you get to the club, are you the one who goes and talks to the bouncer or are you waiting in the back for your friend to get you in. Are you asking your friends what are we doing tonight or are you calling people and telling them what we are doing tonight. When you take a girl on a date do you ask her what she wants to do or do you let her know you have an awesome night planned out.

Like Mystery says, if you are not the alpha male of your group, you are not getting laid, at least not by the most desirable girls. So let me reiterate... "Am I hanging out with people, or are people hanging out with me". The answer to this question will tell you alot about yourself.......
I think you are very misinformed of what it takes to be a leader (or alpha male if you will.) From what I read here, you believe there is something wrong with asking others what they plan to do and asking if you can come along. Someone who isn't much of a leader may appear to be "alpha" just because he's forcing people to go along with what he says or he's the one coordinating everything. Hugh Hefner of Playboy didn't get to where he is by telling people what to do and how it was going to be, he did it through listening to others and asking for assistance.
 

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An Alpha at some point does call the shots though. He may ask for feedback but the final decision is his .. (i.e. OK ..this is what we're going to do).

The male with the most testosterone and who has no reserves about being nice or accomodating because of his upbringing will often take charge.

Hugh Hefner - Alpha? Pfftt...lol. He just has alot of money by exploiting women. It's men who bought all his stuff that made him rich. Nothing noble there.
 

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Yeah, Hitman, but are you asking yourself my question? When you are hanging out, are you along for the ride or are you leading the pack. It's very obvious in groups of friends who is the leader. Are you that guy?
 

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It really depends because there are a lot of variables to this. It depends who your hanging out with. Am I an alpha if i'm playing football (american) with my afc friends and am just expected to play quarter back and make all the plays and decisions and just be awesome while I can play with pumped motherfu*kers and be sidelined or just have no role to the game? How could you classify that? I guess theres different degrees of "alpha", but all i'm saying is that its impossible to put a perment label of alpha on a guy because theres always gonna be someone whos more of it and your not always gonna be with the same group.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Very good post, if you say "alpha" meaning the leader of a group, not someone who's necessarily able to lead everywhere he goes.
Even losers' cliques have leaders and they are perceived as alphas by the other members of the clique, but if you ask a jock "is xyz a alpha male?", he will spit to your eyes and laugh out loud.
 

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An Alpha male would have taken out North Korea's launch pad days ago.
 
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