"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Quick ADvice Needed: Blast to the past (AFC days)

DoctorLW

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So it's been awhile since I've been around this board, I am suprised my user name still exists... Anyway, I have come here searching for some quick advice for lack of another place to go... Oh, and to any AFC's who just stumbled on this site and are skeptical of it, this site is the real deal.

Here is a brief rundown...

Old ex-gf from my AFC transition days in early high-school. I'm a senior in college right now. Anyway, girl leaves a message saying to call her if I'm in town and want to hang out. Naturally I log on to facebook and check her photos to make sure she hasn't gotten fat or anything, but it shows she is in a relationship. From what I remember, this girl was a goodie-goodie prude. I find it nearly IMPOSSIBLE that she could really be calling to just hang out, but at the same time I just don't see her cheating on her bf. Like I said I would really love to nail this girl, simply because she was the girl during the transition period... it makes this more tantalizing. Also I can't go out to clubs or bars right now, I am on strict detox (No booze or blow for a few weeks), as I'm a little concerned with my health due to my partying habits of late. I also haven't kept in touch with the other girls I used to hook up with in my hometown for a couple years. Hence, other girls are not a serious option right now. Obviously I could go a couple weeks without, but would prefer not to.

So here is what I am tempted to do: ask her what she has in mind when she meant hanging out... and then ask if she still has a boyfriend before committing to any plans. Should be fairly implicit what is on my mind, and I could get a straight answer.

But if she is as goodie-goodie as I remember that may be too blunt for her. I really doubt she has changed much considering she just got accepted to some killer medical school or something. I'm really used to dealing with sorority skanks that party really hard, not girls that are actually somewhat intelligent and do constructive things (and probably think they party hard at their schools but really don't know the meaning of the word). Kinda confused as how to handle this one.

It isn't really that big a deal to be honest. But a second opinion would be nice before I make my move.

Thanks in advance to anyone who gives their opinion,
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DoctorLW

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Disregard my post guys. I'm just gonna go ahead and do the best I can.
 

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Well, I would just like to say that looks can be deceiving. Some of the most goodie-goodie, innocent looking girls can be some of the most nasty ones behind closed doors. Even more so than the skanky looking party girls. Another example, when I was a sophomore in high school, I knew this freshman girl. Really innocent, pure, a serious virgin, LTR material then. Fast forward to 2006, she's in college and one of the biggest party girls and has lots of random sex with guys and really whoring it up and bragging about it.
 
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