"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Doob

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I met this girl about a week ago in one of my classes, We talked alot and had a ****load in common. Something strange happened the past week, Whenever I try to start a conversation with her, she gives me simple answers Such as....

"So whats your favorite band?"
"I dont have one, I listen to anything"

And other small things like
"this class is pretty boring huh?"
then she would just nod her head....

Am i doing something wrong? am i supposed to be saying statements or something?

Lately its been really ackward bewteen us.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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08aisaac

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I know somewhat how you feel. I know a few girls, very un receptive to any of my attempts to seduce.

Just focus on some other girls while you at it.

But you say you have alot in common, so get her #, and ****.
 

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If she is responding to you with one sentence (or word, or no word) awnsers, she is not worth your time, find another chick that will make small talk with you, not a b!tch like this chick
 

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Girls who aren't responsive or receptive are a pain in the butt.

However, I have a few suggestions to your questions.

For the first one, try to dig deeper.
What I mean by this, if she just gives you an answer like she listens to everything and anything. Try something like:

"In that case [pause] I will have to bring you this music tommorow"
She says: "Oh, and what music is that?" (*)

Now from here, you can either tell her something that would make her laugh, maybe like a band she told you she hated, or just something weird.

Or you could use suspense and say, "You will see tommorow" Then she will be begging you to tell her, hopefully. (*)

* - This is canned/predetermined, and she might not respond as listed above. She might just say OK when you tell her you will bring some music tommorow. In this case, this is one god damn nonresponsive *****!

For the second question you asked.

You are presuming she thinks the same thing, instead ask her what she thinks of the class.

Once she answers, ask her why.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by Doob
"So whats your favorite band?"
"I dont have one, I listen to anything"
This one's good, but you could provoke her more. Something like "Oh yeah me too, I like that band a lot" Try and be funny, make her want to ask her a question and make her realize she's just blowing you off.
And other small things like
"this class is pretty boring huh?"
then she would just nod her head....
This is also really risky because this isn't about them. If you ask a girl a question about something that isn't them they don't really care. Talking about them is the only way to improve.

There's also the pretty good chance that she just has no interest and the only think you can do is move on. I've encountered a lot of girls like this and frankly if they're not interested, they're not worth my time.
 

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There is actually the rare girl out there who is shy and simply doesn't know how to keep the conversations going..

When she gives a noncommital answer, say something like 'not very chatty today are ya' in a way that makes it look like you get the hint and are ready to bolt. If she cares, she'll change her attitude or at least say why shes quiet, if not then say 'well, I'm off to find someone interesting to talk to'. That'll fix her. :D
 

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I dont think shes a nonresponsive ***** because the first day I met her we talked alot.
Maybe it really is that time of the month.
 

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Also consider how you've been acting to her lately...

Now I'm NOT saying you've been doing these things, but acting desperate, clingy or needy can turn a girl off without them even consciously realising the reason why they feel repelled.

She definitely doesn't seem shy as you talked to her before without any problems, but just lay low for a while and talk to others. Let her start the convo. If not, remain civil and diplomatic.

Hope it helps.
 
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