"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Questions to ask yourself when qualifying women

Angelus

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After one of my plates decided to give me the LJBF I'm trying to improve my inner game further, and realized that the only that my main qualification on women is wether I feel there's a good chemistry between us. If it is, then I set up further dates.

However what I realized is that by going with _only_ the feeling of "this is good", I seem to cheat myself into thinking that it's proper.

Now, that, I came to realize... points in a direction indication that I'm not sure what specific qualities I want to see in a woman.

Apperance? Does it have to be a 7+ if you bother to spend any time with her?

Social status? Does she live in a trailer park and doesn't have any education past junior high or is she a classy woman with a PhD?

If she's got any semi-kinky sexual preferences? Has she admitted that she'd like to try a ffm threesome?

Lives alone or with her parents?

IOI? Attention wh0res know how to use IOI to get further dates with the AFCs.

What do the rest of you PUAs have on your checklists to decide if you want to bother with a meeting up with a girl after the first date?
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Bigtrucker2008

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What does IOI stand for? I speak in words, sorry.

But one thing, I think about the chances of her being too-too loose and handing out free STD's. This is 2009, people got AIDS.
 

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Indicator of Interest.

Its a mistake to let your chemistry alone guide you any further than her pants. Thats what fvcks us guys up, and we overlook the red flags.

I look for any signs of attention seeking. How she treats people. (waiters and bartenders etc.)

Also, ask about her childhood. Ask her about her father. If he let her get away with murder, than she is probably spoiled and will walk all over you. If he was a drunk wifebeater, it means she MIGHT go for abusive guys as well. Women are often attracted to men that are similar to their fathers. If they come from broken homes, or dysfunctional families in general, they are likely to have the same problems, or possibly be a BPD. All the fvcked up chicks I know, have horrible stories about their childhood.


If she is one of the few women out there that have had a semi-normal childhood, with both parents around, she is way more likely to be quality.

Also, the kind of people she hangs out with. Lots of guy friends, and hardly any girlfriends = red flag.

If she hangs out with a bunch of manipulative hors, she may be one as well.

Stuff like that.
 

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My work/studies are within health-care, so STDs are usually not a problem, I see your point though BT2008...

Horaholic, thanks for the input man... When I was thinking through the wether it was right or not to only let the chemistry guide me I felt it was a big one, 'cuz up until now that's mainly what has been guiding me. I'm glad to hear I wasn't crazy when this thought struck. Childhood, relationship towards father, parents, major events during her childhood/upbringing, lots of guy friends... check check check...will remember these. Anything else?

Question though... BPD?
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Totally agree with everything horaholic said.

The stuff you (the OP) were talking about isn't that important. It all depends on what you want, not what other people think you should want. If you decide you won't date anyone from a trailer park, for instance, you could be closing yourself off from a great girl, you never know.
Sometimes a girl might not quite be a 7 but she physically appeals to you somehow in a special way.

Like I said, I don't think you should limit yourself (but all that stuff horaholic said makes perfect sense). You should be sure you pick someone who meets your needs, but other than that I think the whole "qualifying women" thing is largely BS.
 
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