Questions to ask for online dating...

[DoubleA]

I'm trying to get more out of my conversations on email with the women I meet online. Do any of you guys have any good questions I can ask?

I'm trying to avoid questions like, "Have you had your heartbroken?", "What's your favorite color?". You know. I need something that sparks mental fireworks...any help given, is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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[insomniac]

Look for clues in her profile and what she writes. Find out what she's passionate about and get her to talk about it.

For example, she says "I love traveling! I went to Paris and it was amazing!!!"

Your reply: "What was so amazing about Paris? What was it like?"

She'll start telling you what it was like. While writing, she'll remember the trip, and she'll remember the feelings she had. She'll feel happy...and will interpret it as you making her feel happy.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you are going to go that route, be sure to share similar experiences that you've had. You can't just ask loads of questions without saying something to pique her interest.

With that said, you still don't want to over do your email interactions either, you want to meet with her sooner than later. You don't want to fall into one of those blasé email romances.

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Rollo
I need something that sparks mental fireworks...

Very, very good point.
I found out simple questions do not work at first. They are too serious and a bit boring...

Try to find some unusual thing in her profile.
Example: she said she like to play in her garden... This is unusual right?
So I asked her:
"...And what kind of music the plants in your garden like?"

Try to transform some regular line into ****y ones:
"What do you do for a living - anything exciting besides freezing in
the office?"

If she doen't have a pic, dont ask directly for it.
Ask "Are you .. cute?"

So there is no predefined question. Find somehting interesting, amuzing about her (her profile, her letters) and try to make questions based on that material.