"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Questions from her on second date

jfpt4e

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So met a solid 8.5 on match, went on first date within couple days of contacting her and had a great time. A week later went on second date and had a great time as well. Have a third date planned for this weekend.

On second date she asked me a series of questions about me and relationships. Tried to blow off as many as I could as I know we should not talk about past girlfriends. But two questions she asked me that I am curious on how you guys would answer:

Do you fall (for someone) hard?
Who did the breaking up in my past relationships, me, my girlfriends, or equal?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BetterCallSaul

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How about....

Do you fall (for someone) hard?
You take life a day at a time and handle things as they come up.

Who did the breaking up in my past relationships, me, my girlfriends, or equal?
Are previous relations you had with girls important in what might happen with the current girl you're seeing? What's important is you're there with her right now. You're not with these other girls, you're with her.


If that all fails, try to shut her up with all the questions by saying something along the lines of "I don't want to get so serious about this stuff right now. We haven't known each other that long. I'm just trying to enjoy meeting new people and I want to have fun with you during the times we have together."

Sometimes women really know how to spoil a good time.
 

Comatozed

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I wonder about the who dumped who question too.

I can't imagine saying you got dumped looks good. I'd consider using it as a way to set boundaries early, subtly.

I ended it because I wasn't happy with the way she behaved. bla bla not too many specifics.
 

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Great answers... Sometimes it's so difficult to think fast in the moment with sharp replies..

And yes, why can't women just enjoy the moment and have a good time as we were having.. The good thing is it ended with a good make out session..

I am divorced (and her as well), and that came up in the discussion. I was cheated on, so there really is no way around the who dumped who question on that. It is what it is..

But we are going on a third date tomorrow so we'll see how it goes, need to work on "quick" thinking skills...
 

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These sound like questions she's read in a book or magazine to ask. I wonder if we could find the source and see what it says. Probably has a feminist psychologist author who then breaks down why men are pieces of sh!t in each scenario.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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