Questions from a newbie about improving inner game

[LDD]

Hi all,

I'm currently working on my inner game now (even bought the Bobby Rio Self-Confidence Blueprint audio series) after realizing that those routines and tactics and lines etc doesn't work in the long term without solid inner game.

I've tried the routines and tactics and managed to attract some girls, but it doesn't last long cos' I've no inner game to back the outer game up.

Some questions:

1) Should I focus on being a good conversationalist (hold a conversation) and FORGET about being funny? Then when my conversation skills is much better, then I try to learn humor and build on top of that? Cos' I'm not a funny guy by nature and can't make girls laugh till they bend their tummy currently.

2) I'm currently building up my "girl-base", ie: getting to know more girls as platonic friends and keep them around by my side as social proof / increase social value so that I can use them as practice for my conversation skills as well. However, in terms of face, these girls are all 5 - 6 on the scale of 10.
Will the prettiness level of girls around me increase to 7 and above when my game gets better? I don't wanna be surrounded by 5 - 6s my whole life.
I want a 7.5 and up.

3) Where does one meet pretty girls? This sounds lame, but any particular places? Or is it purely a numbers game? ie: you visit many different places and hope to see a 7.5 by chance etc

4) Last: are there any places that "naughty" girls go to? I'm trying to find chicks with flirty and strong personalities, cos' the ones hanging around me now are the more gentle / demure types.

Tks,
LDD

 

[Mike32ct]

I'll take the first one.

Don't try to be funny for now. A good conversationalist who is a little dry/serious is MUCH more effective than a guy trying to be funny. Focus on just talking.

Actually, it's not strictly necessary to be funny at all. Women leave the bar with the serious/sultry/confident/don't give a F guy, not the class clown/standup comedy guy.

I'm not saying humor is bad. It's good. But it's more powerful when it's used sparingly. I like being serious and throwing in an occasional funny line when it comes to mind.

 

[TheCWord]

You say you're trying to improve your inner game, but all of your questions have nothing to do with inner game. Just look at them:

1) Should I focus on being a good conversationalist (hold a conversation) and FORGET about being funny? Then when my conversation skills is much better, then I try to learn humor and build on top of that? Cos' I'm not a funny guy by nature and can't make girls laugh till they bend their tummy currently.

2) I'm currently building up my "girl-base", ie: getting to know more girls as platonic friends and keep them around by my side as social proof / increase social value so that I can use them as practice for my conversation skills as well. However, in terms of face, these girls are all 5 - 6 on the scale of 10.
Will the prettiness level of girls around me increase to 7 and above when my game gets better? I don't wanna be surrounded by 5 - 6s my whole life.
I want a 7.5 and up.

3) Where does one meet pretty girls? This sounds lame, but any particular places? Or is it purely a numbers game? ie: you visit many different places and hope to see a 7.5 by chance etc

You are asking about how to please other people. It seems like you at least know that you need to work on inner game, but you are still focused on external things.

Inner game is not about trying to be funny, building up a girl-base, as you call it, or knowing where to go to meet girls.

Oh, and it's DEFINITELY not about those lame audio books, terrible lines, and completely transparent "tactics." That stuff was always artificial crap for guys with truly no inner game to use. Back in 2005 when that stuff came out, it may have had some success but there's no way it ever came off sounding natural. In 2014, girls know about these "tactics." When you go up to a girl and ask her for her opinion on something or ask to read her palm, she's going to laugh in your face - she immediately knows you're a clueless guy who has to study pickup on the Internet. She'd much rather be with a guy who can pick her up by being a confident, high value, real man.

As an exercise, any time you have a question about girls, flip it inward. "How do I make girls laugh?" = "What amuses me?"... "How do I attract 7.5s and up?" = "How do I have a busy, fulfilling life where I am pursuing my passions that will naturally attract women to me?"

Reading assignment: The Book of Pook and Anti-Dump Machine. In that order.

 

[LDD]

Thanks for the advice, CWord!

 

[VladPatton]

CWord is right. Don't spend any money on that stuff, man. All those guys are doing for you is taking your money. Just work on yourself in an honest way for a while. Slowly you're mind will stabilize itself and be comfortable in it's own skull.

You will not be able to please everyone or be liked be everyone. So be it, don't be upset over it, that's their problem. Own whatever you do and don't be apologetic for it if things may of gone wrong.

It takes time to bring out your natural best, but it it not impossible.