questions before i begin my journey/cold approach

[blue11199]

i am a newbie at this, and i want to be best prepared before i go out and start approaching random girls. im a college student, and im going to approach random girls on the street in a neighboring college, not my own college.

1. what will be my initial success rate for phone numbers/dates? around 5%?
2. what is the best opener/conversation starter?
3. how do i measure my progress? what is the ultimate goal? immunity to rejection? inner confidence? social skills?
4. how will i know that doing all this is worth the time, effort, and rejections?
5. what are some things i should know before i go out there? any common mistakes?

if there's an older thread that answers these questions, please provide the url

thank you all
Don Juan apprentice

edit: i just came across the boot camp book, and so please just answer the questions that this book does not address. i have yet to read this bootcamp material, so if the book covers all my questions, you don't need to answer my questions if they're redundant. thanks for reading this post

 

[shyguy32]

1. what will be my initial success rate for phone numbers/dates? around 5%?
Well I never kept track of this, but does it matter really? Your success rate or failure will mean nothing when you get the phone number.

2. what is the best opener/conversation starter? Theres a million of them out there, just try and figure out which one is best for you. I'm sure if you search the forums here you'll find some "openers".

3. how do i measure my progress? what is the ultimate goal? immunity to rejection? inner confidence? social skills?
To me progress isn't about how many numbers you get or how many girls you bang, but how you start feeling on the inside and see how your confidence grows.

4. how will i know that doing all this is worth the time, effort, and rejections?
When you start seeing results or again when you start feeling at ease with yourself and situations you'll know it's worth it.

5. what are some things i should know before i go out there? any common mistakes? You should def work on the ****y/funny ALOT. On friends on people at the grocery store, whatever and whenever use it, it works.

 

[macallik]

1. what will be my initial success rate for phone numbers/dates? around 5%?
Varies from person to person. A word of advice, don't compare your success to others coz someone will always be better and worse than you either way. Just keep trying to get better each approach

2. what is the best opener/conversation starter?
Try everything and make whatever works your own

3. how do i measure my progress? what is the ultimate goal? immunity to rejection? inner confidence? social skills?
You tell me. What do you want out of all of this...

4. how will i know that doing all this is worth the time, effort, and rejections?
Can't answer that for you either

5. what are some things i should know before i go out there? any common mistakes?
I'd say let the field teach you instead of someone online, you'll appreciate it more. Two important things are not to take rejection personally and not to fret if success doesn't come automatically.

Good luck man, I'll keep an eye out for your journal to watch how your journey goes

 

[Matt281]

1. what will be my initial success rate for phone numbers/dates? around 5%?

Depends on a ton of things - whether you're used to talking to people, which girls you approach, how confident you are, how you look, etc. But it's probably higher than 5%. I remember a post on rsd from a guy who approached 100 girls just asking for sex, and had like a 3 or 4% success rate.

2. what is the best opener/conversation starter?

There is none. Don't put too much emphasis on this. What works best for me though is to go direct: just walk up, tell them you think they're cute and wanted to meet them, then go for a number or date.

3. how do i measure my progress? what is the ultimate goal? immunity to rejection? inner confidence? social skills?

It isn't a set thing. What is YOUR goal? When you get what you want, you've met your goal. Measure progress by how well the interactions go and how close you get to getting where you want. If you actually go out there and TRY with a lot of women, you're doing better than most people. Some more experienced guys will tell you that the first 1000 approaches don't count =P

4. how will i know that doing all this is worth the time, effort, and rejections?

You'll have to see for yourself. If you can't handle it and decide dating and having sex with hot women isn't for you, then you'll know.

5. what are some things i should know before i go out there? any common mistakes?

Only real mistake is not going out there and trying. I promise you, if you actually go and talk to 100 girls, you'll have a better understand of this stuff than you could ever get from reading about it.