Questioning the DJ system all together. --> TRUE DJs get your arse in here. <--

[xomel]

I'll be honest here, when I first came to this site I was a loser. I was 16 years old and never kissed a girl. Then the site turned my love life around... After three months of reading I got some action. I turned 17 and that night I kissed a girl (not drunk or anything, all natural charisma) the next day I kissed another girl, the next week I got my first blow job, within the two months I made out with four different girls and did everything but fvck with two more girls.

Eventually one girl caught my heart - I lost my virginity and thought of myself as a completed Don Juan(a big mistake). After six months of dating her I turned boring, I no longer felt like DJism was neccessary. She started cheating on me and two months later I found out. I was friends with benefits for another 3 more months after that and finally broke it off about a year ago. The price of retiring my so called "DJ status" paid dearly.

For 11 months I didnt get any action... I dated one ugly girl for a few weeks and had many situations to hook up with drunk girls but never took any action. I was a genuine AFC. About a month ago I came back here and read some material. I got laid for the first time in almost a year and was talking to a bunch of girls. I'm definitely getting somewhere within the world of DJing but still not a true DJ.

Now all the girls I'm going places with are ALL SLUTS. They are fvckinging EASY WH0RES. I'm serveral leagues above them (or maybe thats just what I'm thinking in my DJ mind set) I can't get a steady relationship like I once had before. I want that again... but what's sad is that it ruined my life for a bit.

Growing up in the world at 19 years old, am I just realizing these things? Is this how it is, I'm always going to have casual flings? Is that what most girls want? Is this the only thing DJ teachings are good for... casual hook ups.

Will these DJ teachings ever come to use and gain me a real relationship? Or is what I'm learning here only going to be put to use to be a player and get girls?

Also, as I'm getting over the fear of approaching, should I just get over the fear of a girl being a slut too, and just try to fvck every girl that comes within 2 feet of me?

 

[selfmademob]

They help with casual flings, but ultimately lead you to finding a great chick

 

[Ace of Flames]

The problem isn't DJism, or your understanding of it. Its the women. At around 19 years old, most girls just wanna have fun bro. Why not help them out? At least until you find a girl worth having a relationship with.

 

[yake]

Could you maybe outline exactely how you turned yourself into a semi-dj the first time around? I am in the same situation you were when you first found this site. Any tips on what exactely I could read and do?

 

[blinkwatt]

Dude I will speak from expierence;
Women at 19 to be nice..I would say...STUPID! To be honest,75% of the good ones are taken at our age. The others well,they are just really friendly. It's up to you on what you want to do,just remember you can't put a price on a relationship women.:rockon:

 

[Cod3r]

Will these DJ teachings ever come to use and gain me a real relationship? Or is what I'm learning here only going to be put to use to be a player and get girls?

I was in your shoes, except I had a few gf's and had gotten laid before coming to these sites, but never with the 'princess' females I always wanted. After about 4 months of hard reading and many many experiences I was laying women left and right (albeit slvts) and had many girls interested in me...

I stayed on this course for another 6 or so months until I started to meet more and more quality girls, i just filtered my way through them until I found my lady now who is as quality as they come...


-Cod3r

 

[xomel]

Could you maybe outline exactely how you turned yourself into a semi-dj the first time around? I am in the same situation you were when you first found this site. Any tips on what exactely I could read and do?

1. READ.
2. PUT IT TO USE. its pointless to read anything if you dont put it to use. why else do you think they put so much emphasis on conifdence?
3. Get the idea in your head that YOU ARE THE ONE THEY WANT. Believe that to its fullest and believe it 100%
the only reason that you are the one making moves on them is because you are a DJ and you make moves on every woman, they have to secure you down by impressing you. Its the moves you make on them that make them want you.
4. After you have the confidence go approach, the more you try the more youll succeed. Every girl you meet make sure you ask them out.
5. Everything else will come naturally.

anything else i can put into context for you?

 

[Sean O]

I think many people misinterpret the word DJ...

I think that PUA and DJ are two very different terms. PUAs want to just pick up girls and hook up wit them. I have no problem in that, that is their choice.

DJs, I feel, not only want more women in their life, but they want to improve their overall character. They want to be able to exude their outgoing personality which has hidden itself foir years. Being a DJ, to me, is not only abot hooking up with girls. It is about improving yourself genuinely. And, consequently, as you improve yourself more and more, girls will eventually start throwing themselves at you.

Excellent point. I'd also like to comment on this:

After six months of dating her I turned boring, I no longer felt like DJism was neccessary.

Like Brak said, DJism is different than PUAism. PUAism is contrived. It's a bunch of techniques and lines. It's something you have to be conscious of. DJism, however, is not contrived. It's the core of your character. It's totally natural. We on SoSuave call it "inner game", and I'd be willing to bet that you didn't spend much time developing any. If you had, you would have been your interesting, engaging self all the time, without even realizing it, and thus she probably wouldn't have cheated.

 

[DarkLight]

^ Well Said!
Agreed.

 

[xomel]

Excellent point. I'd also like to comment on this:

Like Brak said, DJism is different than PUAism. PUAism is contrived. It's a bunch of techniques and lines. It's something you have to be conscious of. DJism, however, is not contrived. It's the core of your character. It's totally natural. We on SoSuave call it "inner game", and I'd be willing to bet that you didn't spend much time developing any. If you had, you would have been your interesting, engaging self all the time, without even realizing it, and thus she probably wouldn't have cheated.

thats exactly what i was implying.

i was only a "fake" DJ and not a real DJ.

because i was no longer a DJ i became boring.

 

[Demon]

Read my article.