"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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questioning a decision in made 1.5 years ago

Venom01

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Hey guys,

I had a girlfriend for 5 years which was great. I started to doubt our relationship because she was the only girl i've ever been with. I decided i would end it 1.5 years ago.

I have now been out with over 30 girls and slept with many chicks. I thought my mind would forget about her, but i still think of her everyday.

I'm debating if i should call her and see if shes interested in being friends.

Any ideas?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ridingthelightning

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Do it, you'll at least get closure if she says no.
 

bornyesterday

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If you're still thinking about her after all this time while you've been with lots of other women you got it bad.
You either hook up with her again (and see how you truelly feel) or you come to terms with the fact you lost her for good. By trying to be a friend with her you will make the pain worse and you wont get closure. You will be in her life, but wont play the part that you desire. It's like a carrot on a stick, it will drive you crazy.
Either you're in a love/sex relationship with her or she's out of your life. It's either/or, you have to make a choice.
 

Nutz

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You got your answer. You're damned if you do, damned if you don't. I'd reach out since it's been a while, but you have to be prepared for the potential fallout. You need to decide which is worse: wondering what might have been, or finding out she's married with kids, loves her life and new guy, and hasn't looked back since.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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