Question

[wavejams007]

I have already asked questions about this one girl, but this is a different question. There is this one girl in the states, specifically, in Florida, where I used to live, that I asked out during summer vacation before my junior year. She rejected me, and ever since, wont even talk to me, cuz I think she is too scared or timid to try to talk to me, maybe cuz she thinks it will be akward.

Before I asked her out, she talked to me no problem. When she rejected me, she gave me the "I liked just being friends" line. Well, even on just a friend level, she wont talk to me. I know that with me being in South America, that is difficult, but I am referring to when I am in the states. I usually hang out with her family cuz the rest of her family is like family to me. I am still interested in her, but was wandering, how do I get her to even just start talking to me? I am a pretty outgoing person, but it is difficult to talk to someone whoe is avoiding you out of fear of embarasment or akwardness. By the way, she is younger than me, a sophmore, I am a senior. Any suggestions, ideas, etc would be appreciated.

Also, I would appreciate no "You're such an AFC" comments, cuz I know for the most part I am not.

Thanks.

 

[Roly]

She's Probably Testing you

That's my best bet. Just play it cool and act like nothing is really happening and start teasing and busting her balls. But then again, if you're desperate to get this chick's approval it will totally show.

Hey man, you're a senior, start going out with more chicks, work on your hobbies and start enjoying life.

" Your happiness, fullfillment and joy is something you would like to feel in a regular basis not because of people's approval of you, set your soul free."

 

[wavejams007]

You are right. But except for this girl, I haven't realy wanted a girlfriend lately. This doesn't mean I am gay, or that this is my true love or anything to make you gag like that, but I am going to start trying to enjoy my live and actually live it now. If only my APs would let me...

 

[Roly]

Its all about Attitude bro

You are in charge of your own thoughts, beliefs and actions. I suggest you take up meditation, get in touch with your spiritual self, pray and say these daily affirmations:

" I'm a worthy and divine individual".

" I am capable of doing anything I can."

" I am thankful and have plenty of abundance in my life."

 

[wavejams007]

Thanks Roly, your advice really helps. One thing that also helps is that I don't let her determine my self worth. Just because she means a lot to me doesn't mean that she is worth more than me. I will try some of that meditation you speak of. Do you practice meditation? How exactly do you do it?

 

[Roly]

Meditation

If you're a beginner, dont expect too much from yourself just try it out. As a writer beginning to write or someone who's just first starting to lift weights, the first thing you've got to do is - just get started and once you do consider that as a success.

Meditation:

1. Get alone by yourself in a dark, private room.

2. Sit indian style, close your eyes and relax and just let go. What I mean by letting go is just to clear your mind and the only way to do that is to think of something peaceful and relaxing. To me it is the ocean or a peaceful sunday afternoon.

3. You can either use this time for peace and serenity or if you are religious use this time to pray to god. You can also use this time to do those daily affirmations like I said above.

Meditation is just great, I meditate every day just to relax myself and talk to higher source of being. There were many times in my life where I've had problems and I had a dilemma, I would just meditate through the whole thing and let the answers come to me. Hopes this helps.