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Every Friday my good friend and I go to a red lobster to eat. One of the hostess' there I always flirt with and I am planning on askin her to hang out this upcoming Friday.

The problem is one of my friends (who is a girl) has a friend who is interested in me. She is going to start coming along (she asked the person whom I usually go with if her and her friend could come along).

Now, her friend is nice and I would definetly consider hooking up with her, but she is on the backburner until I see whatsup with this other chick.

My question is: Should I just flirt/ask the other chick out right in front of the other (backup... I guess) girl's face? That's what I am planning on doing, but I would just like to get an opinion or two on the matter before hand.
 

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Do your romantic business in private and only in 'one-on-one' situations, if possible. Why do you have a need to bring others into your personal affairs by making it so public?
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Do your romantic business in private and only in 'one-on-one' situations, if possible. Why do you have a need to bring others into your personal affairs by making it so public?
It usually is one-on-one. I didn't invite these girls to come, my friend did. So it kind of makes things more complicated.
 

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i agree with puerto rican....i mean...why do it with them there...i would prefer to do it private...and also who says you cant have both girls? if you hit it off with the hostess then the friend might not like you anymore...but if its done in private...you can get the hostess and the the friend...and now you have OPTIONS!!!
 
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