You got questions, I got answers
Chris-
I know this is an old post, but here's some answers for you...
I had a similar situation with my ex-oneitis, who's a girl you know from DR with the initials AP. She told me she wanted to be single for a while. What I learned is that when girls say "I don't want a relationship" or "I want to be single", this is complete and utter bull****. What they are really saying is that they do not want a relationship with you.
This girl therefore fails your test for interest level, and you next her. DON'T keep pursuing her, it will probably lead to a oneitis, as it did in my case.
You shouldn't resent her for it, women go with their feelings all the time, and that's just the way they are. Expecting them to behave like a man is as senseless as expecting a dog to behave like a man.
And for where to meet new girls, I've already told you that. We're two DJs living within 10 miles of each other, it is ridiculous that we don't wing for each other. Come to the gym or mall with me sometime and we can work on our game.
--Dan